(10 easy points for best answer) how do I deal with my bi-polar gf?!
Question: (10 easy points for best answer) how do I deal with my bi-polar gf?
One day she will be the cutest girl in the world, she will invite me over to her house for like a movie night and like a family night with her family. Her sister, her mom, and her mom's boyfriend. And its really cute, and innocent.
The next night she will want be alone she will get really turned on, and give me a hand job right on her couch with people walking around, although our hands our hands and lower bodies are under the blanket.
Basically she can be the cutest and most sexual person. But when she gets mad she can be just a huge ***** to me. For example if I don't say I love you enough, or I don't respond to one of her text's fast enough she will get really mad. When I go to fast in bed, like you know feeling a little tingly jingly to fast, she will get pissed. And will say I'm not taking my pants of for anything for the rest of the night. And like 10 minutes later there she goes again, ripping off my pants.
Whenever the subject of cheating or something comes up, she will like grab onto me. And say you better not **** around got it. And say stuff like don't hurt me or I will kill you, and she has this angry yet sexy face on as she does it.
When shes texting me its worse, I will tell her I'm going to bar, and shes like be a good boy or else. And she literally won't leave me a long the whole night because shes so worried.
Now I am kind of bothered and really turned on at the same time. Not saying I'm ever going to cheat but if I did she might just kill me. I think she would tie me up and torture me and for some reason that kind of turns me on to.
She literally wants to have me forever, whenever she see's a nice house she says that's going to be our house. Lets remember she can really really sweet, and then go really really scary.
Any advice on how to stay on her good side more often then not?
Answers:
you obviously know the different sides of her, you just need to work on going with her mood swings, because there are going to be times when you know what you should and shouldn't say to her, so just try your best.
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PARTNERS / FRIENDS / FAMILY / CO-WORKERS:
See www.bipolarsupporter.com/ & www.bipolarsupport.org/ & www.livingmanicdepressive.com/ & www.helpguide.org/ also has advice on helping bipolar people.
READ: (FOR PARTNERS):
Read: Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder by Julie A. Fast and John D. Preston Psy D ABPP, & When Someone You Love Is Bipolar: Help and Support for You and Your Partner by Cynthia G. Last, & Friends and Family Bipolar Survival Guide by Debra Meehl and Mark Meehl, &
The Bipolar Relationship: How to understand, help, and love your partner by Jon P. Bloch, Bernard Golden, and Nancy Rosenfeld, & Bipolar Disorder: The Ultimate Guide by Sarah Owen and Amanda Saunders, from your bookstore, or Amazon.com and check out the others, via their searchbar "bipolar disorder; partners" etc., and for the bipolars themselves; get them a few of the best ones.
Apparently, she's not got her stuff under control. This is HER responsibility.
She needs to focus on therapy, getting her meds right, etc.
What you can do is be patient, let her know how you feel (even if this means getting her majorly pissed off!! - be strong). She needs to hear outside feedback - despite what she may say.
Bottom line is -- YOU need to step back for your own sake if she simply cannot get her life sorted. She's not an invalid - she's totally capable of following a much more structured life. But only SHE can make it happen, and until then, there's really nothing you can do to help.
Speak to her, encourage her to chose positively.
Otherwise, be satisfied with what craziness you'll get.