Very raw and obscene question...but it is 100% serious. Preferable mental health!
Question: Very raw and obscene question...but it is 100% serious. Preferable mental health experts only please?
She is 5'8, around 115 pounds, dark brown hair and blue eyes, if that even matters. I don't know what mental health experts need to diagnose a person. I am to embarrassed to go to a doctor face to face. This answers thing is my last resort.
She is a dominant woman. She knows what she wants, and she thinks before she acts. She is independent when it comes to making it on her own, but needs the love of a relationship to be happy. She is very smart, she is a nurse's assistant and was always an honors student in middle and high school. She has only smoke pot one time, has never drank alcohol and was not abused as a child. She has a healthy diet and exercises every single day for two hours minimum. Her parents were very loving and caring, actually. She has an older and two younger sisters, and no brothers. Her mother was a dentist and her father was a Major in the USMC. They both looked out for all four of their kids like no other parent.
Sorry this is taking so long to get to the point, but like I said, I don't know what people need to make a diagnosis.
Anyway...I took her out to buy a new dress yesterday, because I had made reservations to a very, very fancy 5 star restaurant. We ate, came home, and cuddled on the bed while watching tv. We started kissing, and it got real heavy really fast. She pushed me down and sat on top of me, and tied my wrists and ankles to each bed post. I thought this was an odd turn for her, because usually she is the one that likes being submissive. But then, she got completely naked, and sat on my face! She started giggling when I tried to get away, because she basically cut my air supply off and I couldn't breathe. Plus it was gross as hell, I mean, her butt was ON my face. I was so grossed out. She moved forward and looked at me, smiling, and I was basically begging her to stop and telling her that I wanted to be untied NOW and it was just awkward as hell. She frowned and sat on my face again, and said that she was just getting started. She sat there GRINDING my face deeper and deeper into her butt. She was moving back and forth demanding that i sniff and lick it. I seriously gagged, I was grossed out to the max. I couldn't get the damn ropes undone either, she tied them so good. She got upset that I was not excited and got even more upset when it remained like that the entire time. She got hers, though. That went on for over two hours. She varied position from time to time, but that doesn't matter. Basically, what the f*ck got into her? What the hell is wrong with her? She has NEVER acted like that before! She has almost always been the submisive one. She says she likes strong men that show her the ropes. After she stood up over me I kept saying untie me untie me now and she FINALLY did. I imediately ran to the bathroom and locked myself in so I could throw up and wash my face and get the smell of butt out of my nose. I am getting sick just thinking and typing about it now. After I got out she smiled, SMILED and asked how it was. I couldn't even talk to her I just went to bed, horrified. Seriously, what the hell happened to her? I don't understand. The weirdest thing happened so fast. It was disgusting, but she LOVED it. Please only mature people answer this, I don't need answers that put me or her down or tell me to leave her or what ever. She is my life and I love her to death, I am just worried. Thanks in advance for the answers.
Answers:
Maybe she finally is getting turned on by prudes. Good job brown nosing her, dude. Sounds like lots of fun.
Chicks can be real anal about random stuff, huh?
Troll?
One question you are a woman and this one you are a man!
Make up your mind!
Dude thats bad ***,i wish my girl would freak out like that my tounge would have been all up in that
I think she was trying to do something different and thought you would enjoy it. You need to sit down with her and tell her that she went too far by not untying you when you told her to. If the situation were reversed she would have called rape, left your home together, and had her dad come beat you up. Explain to her your bounderies and let her know gently that that was not something you would like to repeat. She will probably feel bad once you sit her down and explain everything to her, just let her know that everything will be okay between the two of you. You should ask her if she isn't being fulfilled sexually, that may be the reason that she tried to change things up and was too embarrased to tell you. You'll feel better once you've talked this through with her, it sounds like you have a very solid relationship so there's nothing to worry about in that respect. Good luck, I'm sorry that this happened. =(
You might have liked it a bit more if she had had a shower and a good scrub of her nether region before mashing her fanny into your face.
You need to tell her that your not into this type of sex, that you find it repulsive and disgusting and that you never want that situation repeated ever again.
then tell her you want to take a sh!t on her face while you give her an orgasm. most likely she'll be disgusted and then you can tell her " see that exactly how you made me feel"
First, NO ONE can 'diagnose' anyone unless qualified to do that, AND in person face to face as a licensed professional.
People can give out their opinions here, and their two cents worth in answers.
This is not to say that some people don't get it right, but one has to remember that you never know what people will say.
I think you should both see a sex therapist, so that you can both talk this through, so she can safely disclose WHY she did this at what seemed random to you , AND so you can talk about how you felt abused.
I think , if it went this way and you did say no and protested, that you WERE sexually assualted and possibly a case could be made for unlawful detainment or something .
You do sound traumatized and you do need to get help with that.
A therapist can help both of you sort it out, and at the very least you two need a 'safe' word, ie an agreement that if one or the other of you says that word, everything stops.
You said 'no', she didn't stop. That is assualt.
I cannot say what was going on in her head, she acted like she thought it would be ok with you, for some reason, or didn't care.
You need to talk this out with a trained person.
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I don't think anything is wrong with her, she was trying something new but you didn't like it. Perhaps you should talk with her, ask her what exactly was she trying to achieve by tying you up and gyrating her *** in your face? And tell her how it made you feel and how you felt about the whole experience... It also could be her way of telling you she is not interested in having sex with you and would rather rub her *** in your face because she is sick of you. I know that sounds terrible but if she wanted to heighten herself with you tied up, she would have straddled your face so her fanny was over it and not her ***.
It could have been her way of playing the dominant role, and because she had you tied up, she wanted to rub your face in it (in the fact that she for once has the upper hand in the situation). but it just got out of hand. It's not unusual for someone to take it past the limit especially if it's been like 7 yrs and that can't be healthy. Perhaps you both need to sit down with a sex therapist and talk about the reasons why you both are no longer intimate. I think you both need to rediscover one another.
Talk with her my friend. It really doesn't matter what we say, we can only ever speculate, but you need to ask her for the answers yourself. Take care ok.
This is sexual assault. You told her to stop and she didn't. She also must have known you wouldn't like it because she tied you up. You yourself said she normally doesn't do THAT either.
You MAY need to see a counselor if this really bothers you long term, but not couples counseling. It could be chalked up to a misunderstanding. What you two need to do, though, is sit down and have a dialogue going. Find out what made her want to try it, what made her do it, how it made you feel, and why didn't she stop when you told her to? Those things you need to find out. If you guys can't be honest with each other, and trust each other not to do something that makes the other feel uncomfortable, then this relationship is going to be no good, any longer.
I know you guys have been together for a long time, so this could just be a hiccup, but try to talk it out and let her know that if she wants to try something new ever again, you guys need to have a discussion about it first, expect limitations to be set, and a safe word for if you really mean to stop.
JMD
First thing, it sounds like there was a serious lack of her being able to read your reaction. You may have been thinking in your head how much you didn't like it but she may have been reading you differently. Now, I am a woman and I think I know what was going on here. Us women have fantasies too. I think this "fantasy" of hers has been building up for a lone time. Even though you say you both know what each other likes you can never know what she secretly wants. It's hard for some people to tell their partners about a fantasy you'd like to act out in fear of being embarrassed by their reaction. Sometimes you just act it out hoping they'll jump on board and go with it. Another reason may be that she may also be feeling insecure. When women hear stories about men cheating because their sex life wasn't satisfying they go into panic mode ( this could happen from no fault of you). They start thinking they need to come up with something their lover has never seen in them hoping to spice up their sex life and keep their man interested. Sounds like your girlfriend failed at this attempt ( if that was what was going on in her mind). I think she took it too far and should have talked to you about trying something new. Talking about sex and fantasies with your lover is healthy and only strengthens the relationship. I think everyone has experienced their lover trying something new that they didn't like ( sounds like your experience was pretty extreme) . What's important for you to do is have a talk with her about it. Ask her where all that came from and what about her doing that turned her on. You have to be really careful when you talk to her about it. Approach it like you're just curious. Watch your tone, facial expressions and choose every word carefully. You could easily embarrass her and this could cause you to not get anything in bed for awhile. When she tells you what was up just simply ask her what other fantasies she has. If she asks you if you enjoyed it just say you were a little shocked and you're open to talk about something different you two can try. Tell her you'd prefer to have your hands free so you can feel her beautiful body. Give compliments while letting her know you'd rather go a different direction with sex. Tread lightly....this is a tough one. I do have to say that you need to speak up before it goes that far. When she took out the rope you should have stopped her then. Good luck to you.
Maybe she accidentally had a drink with alcohol in it? Alcohol makes parts of your brain unstable, even the parts that controls sexual urges. Because you guys are so close I think you should ask her about what happened.
:)