I feel like I am going insane?!


Question: I feel like I am going insane?
This may seem like such a stupid, dumb question. But Im worried. Please dont be cruel or mean.
I am 20 and for some reason my mind keeps thinking I am not a virgin, even though my ex boyfriend said I am as we never had sex. I even told my friends some of the things that me and my ex did and they said I am a virgin. My mind does this to me a lot of the times with other things as well ( I over analyze things sometimes). I keep thinking I might not be a virgin even though my ex said I am. He has no doubt about that as he is also a virgin as well and we never had sex. Please help me. I dont know what to do. I have no idea why I am thinking this way. A couple of days ago, I knew I was a virgin. I mean I have evidence that states that I am a virgin. Like I said to my ex 2 months ago: "Is it bad that I want to lose my virginity to you?" We were on skype when I said this. I never saw him after this skype conservation. So why the hell am I all of a sudden thinking Im not a virgin???!!! Serious answers only please. The reason why it is a big deal to me is because I want to stay a virgin until I am married. I want to know why all of a sudden I am thinking this.
Please dont be rude.

Answers:

I think you may have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). You are so afraid of losing your virginity that you are becoming obsessed with virginity. You've probably engaged in some touchy-feely stuff with your ex-boyfriend. Maybe you've even had oral sex. Unless you've had a penis in your vagina, you are technically a virgin. Therapy may help, and drugs may help as well. It seems that this condition is causing serious problems in your daily life.

Virginity used to be a big deal in the "olden days" because it assured that a woman wasn't carrying diseases that couldn't be cured at the time, and it assured that she didn't have children. Given that we have excellent birth control drugs and devices and cures for the most common STD's, virginity isn't that big a deal. You are more than just a virgin. You are a thinking, feeling person who surely has more to offer than the fact that you've never had sex.

These days, not too many people care if a woman is a virgin or not. Nobody should force you to have sex before you are ready, but it seems like you are ready. Do it with someone you love, and it will be meaningful for the rest of your life.



sounds like your boyfriend may have pulled a fast one on you and you are not a virgin anymore but can't remember and now he's guilty or maybe thinking you "really knew" and just let it go untill you mentioned it on skype.... id go see a doctor and whatever he says you'll know the truth so it should help you.



What does it matter dont worry about not being a virgin concentrate on building a loving relationship with someone nice.



i'm going to guess that you feel guilty for doing as much as you did (whatever it was) with your ex, and you don't feel "pure" anymore. but if you've never had sex, you're a virgin it's really that simple, plus by your age most people have already had sex, so don't feel too bad about what you've done.

if you don't mind my asking is the wanting to wait until marriage thing because of religion? i'm just curious because other than that i don't understand why someone would want to wait. sex is a completely natural thing, but it can really change a relationship...saving something like that until after you've already entered a legally binding contract seems wrong to me.




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