Is it normal to fall in love with not your attacker, but the person who should h!


Question: Is it normal to fall in love with not your attacker, but the person who should have done something about it?
A few years ago I was working in a remote place and it was very dangerous. I was the only woman there and one of the men was sexually harassing me. I called my supervisor and told him and he ignored me. The harassment continued and I told him again and then he ignored me again. Finally the guy sexually assaulted me - not rape and when i told the supervisor this time, I was so distressed and upset and he said he would tell the big bosses, but he never did. When I got back to the city office he said nothing and pretended it never happened.

After the event I suddenly became really obsessively "in love" with this supervisor who didn't care about me. I never cared for him before, but suddenly I was professing my love to him for a whole year and sending him many letters of love each day. I thought he was the love of my life and he kept rejecting me.

When I look back I think maybe I was trying to win the affection of this man who caused me great pain. What do you think? I have heard about falling in love with your attacker before, but what about this?

Answers:

This is actually very common.

You were transferring your love for your attacker onto your supervisor.

A lot of people who are sexually assaulted experience this phenomenon of falling in love with their rapists/ assaulters. Since the crime is sexual in nature, it's common for the individual to have strong feelings for the person who harmed them because there is a physical (and perhaps emotional) link to sexuality.

I myself was raped as a teenager (my first time) and found myself madly in love with my rapist. It took me a long time to realize that he was violent and dangerous and that what he did to me had nothing to do with affection or sentimentality.

Have you told a counselor about your feelings? They can help you process the assault and the aftermath. Good luck.

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Falling in love with a criminal or malfeaser, or abusive person is a common mental illness - it goes beyond cognitive distortion, and makes you either neurotic or psychotic. Hybristophilia.

http://www.helium.com/items/1530527-what…

Sociopath Symptoms
Here below is a listing of some of the most common symptoms, features and behaviors of sociopaths

Sociopaths Sees Only What They Want
Sociopath Have Superficial Charm
Sociopaths Are Manipulative And Conning
Sociopaths Have No Remorse or Guilt
Sociopath Will Lie Persistently
Sociopath Have No Problem In Violating Rights For The Others
Sociopath Have Extreme Sense Of Entitlement
Sociopath Can Become Violent And Harmful
Sociopath Have Persistent Feeling Of Agitation And Depression
Sociopath Do Not Like Boredom
Sociopaths May Not Stay In One Love For Many Years
Sociopath May Not Keep One Job For Long
Sociopaths Like Promiscuity And Gambling
Sociopaths Have No Concern or Feeling For Their Impact On Their Victims
Sociopaths Do Not Accept Blame; – That One Never.

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