Why am I getting bullied?!


Question: Why am I getting bullied?
Hi. I have been getting bullied by various people for around 7 years now (I am currently 14). 3 years ago, I moved to Scotland, where things didnt get any better. If anything, I was more bullied. I have been "jumped" on several occasions, I have had people throw racial comments at me, and have people generally walk over me. For the last 2 months, this boy, who we will refer to as "J", has been starting sh*t with me. He has been doing little things mostly, such as, if I am standing with friends having a cigarette (don't berate me for smoking, I am fully aware of the risks), he will come over, demand that I give him a cig, and if I refuse, all forms of verbal abuse gets thrown at me. It's not just in that situation which he bullies me though, it is nearly all the time (in school, when I am out with friends etc).

He has gotten physical (pushing, shoving) with me on a few occasions, but I have always sorta gotten away from it.

Tonight though, I was at the supermarket, buying some food, as my girlfriend had just gone home on the bus. As I came out, I saw a group of friends that were hanging around with J, and I thought "Screw it, I'll go over". So I said my hello's, and he seemed perfectly fine. Someone suggested that we all go up to the forest and try and find some other people that were supposedly up there, as we were all bored.

As we started walking, I started munching on a pack of crisps, just talking to my friends "C" and "K". We got to this library car park, which was right next to the forest, and "J" suddenly comes up and shoves the pack out my hands, and I go "Aw whaat?" To which he said "You getting cheeky?" And I said "Nah man!". He then grabbed me by my collar, to which I went "What?" and then he headbutted me multiple times, before people dragged him off.

I have said ABSOLUTELY NOTHING BAD to this boy, and he always seems to pick on me. After 7 years of bullying, I am getting very fed up. I am starting to think that it must just be something wrong with me? I mean, there must be, for there to be 7 years of continuous bulling going on.

What should I do?

Please help.

Thank you,

Zak.

Answers:

Break his neck. Just kidding, violence is not the answer. Even though that piece of **** deserves it, lol. Your quite a level-headed kid bro, the stupid kids that **** with you are probably just aggravated that youve got the maturity of which they don't have haha.

Try being a bit more assertive. If someone is trying to start something, tell them to f*ck off (be assertive about it, make sure they get the point), instead of just allowing them to push you and shove you and get away with it. If you've got your friends with you, remember its you and your friends versus just the bully.

Just remember to not let these douchers get away with their bullyin man. you don't deserve it.
probably didn't help much, but hope it gets better for you zak. good luck.



Have you talked to your parents about this? & there isnt anything wrong with you, theres something wrong with THEM. Dont worry things will get better & soon enough you wont get bullied anymore. (:



No its not just you, "J" probably has problems and you should stand up for your self, i would be pissed. :)



You need to talk to an adult. J is probably bullying you because his dad or someone in his life bullies him. He's taking out his aggression where he think he can. Obviously, you're not a bully and not a fighter, which is true of most people, quite frankly. You can either do your best to avoid him or talk with your parents, a teacher, a school administrator, or even the police. There is nothing wrong with you, except that your survival skills involved civilized behavior while his involve more primitive behaviors. In the long run, you have the superior skills for an advanced society like yours.



Bullying sucks and it always has. The best advice I can give you is stand up for yourself and maybe seem a little crazy or very insane. People tend to fear the crazy people. You never know what their going to do. Stick up for yourself man, do not keep going on like this. Best of luck buddy.



Carry some sort of weapon on you... After all, you can't get in trouble for self defense.

I'd ask him what his problem is and why he doesn't like you. You don't seem to have anything wrong with you, it's him...



Not easy is it. He is a challenger
you don't want to become or be aggressive
It looks he is not out for a fierce fight as yet
when he troubles you next
let him
and then just go back into being part of the group
he must see then what he is doing
he may get sick of it eventually
he will have to challenge you into a more direct confrontation
if it comes to that,
tell him firmly and gently that you don't want to fight your friends or any other person.
Stay firm in your approach of being none violent and that's it.
It will definatly teach him a lesson.
If he gets violent report or pin him down on the floor and tell him again I dont want to fight my friends or any other people.
If he does not stop he has to be reported as he showes definate signs of mental illness and he has to be dealt with legally. It is not up to you to deal with his deppression.
Good luck and be a lion!!!



First of all, let me tell you something. In bullying situations, Adults are almost always useless. I say almost because cops usually will help if you're physically attacked, but otherwise, you're on your own. Sometimes, you will find an adult that actually is helpful. These types are the kind that still have trouble acting their age (such as the kind of people that wear tshirts from comic book stores and unzipped hoodies. These types were often bullied themselves as a kid, and know what it's like. Find one of these people and get their help. I know at this point many of you people reading this think I'm either trolling or crazy, but I'm dead serious. One of the main reasons mature adults are useless is because they don't understand bullying. They think that all bullies must have some sort of problem at home, like maybe abusive parents. This can be true, but not often. Most of the time, bullies are just jerks. They grew up around people (such as parents) who were also jerks, so they think it's okay because their parents did that stuff. And if you go to a teacher or something, you'll only make it worse. These people don't think like you do. They don't care about the threat of expulsion, nor do they care about school at all. This is all because of bad parenting. Most of the time, kids aren't afraid of getting detention because of the detention, they're afraid of it because if what their parents will think. We grow up thinking what are parents do is okay, even if it's vehicular manslaughter. These kids grew up with complete douchebags for parents, so they, in turn, will also be complete douchebags. None of that crap you see in cartoons where a bully learns about friendship happens. At least not without years of therapy. But anyways, if you tell on them, you'll only be giving them more ammo to use against you. This is why you need to find the type of adult who never really grew up, and ask him for help. There are two main ways if getting rid of bullies. The first one is to scare them away. This is like the stuff you see in movies where the kid being bullied gets some real muscular dude to back him up, or pulls an elaborate series of pranks on the bullies. Don't try this stuff, because it will only get you in trouble with adults. Way #2, is to bore them away. This means don't let them bother you. If they can't get satisfaction, they won't bother with you. Ask your local immature manchild for tips on ignoring and dealing with bullies. These types of people almost always had bullying problems as a kid, and can pass on their teachings to you. Of course, bullies may just want to beat you up. I highly recommend taking self defense classes. If one bully starts a fight with you, and looses, then word will probably get around that you're not someone to mess with. Follow these tips from my incredibly long explanation, and youre bullying problem will be over in no time.

I'm the kind of guy that wears a tshirt, hoodie, and cargo pants. And was bullied as a kid.




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