Do people who were molested think abou it everyday?!


Question: Do people who were molested think abou it everyday?
I have read that a lot of people who were abused are antisocial, and rather be alone. Do they want to be alone to just think about the past, or do they just want to be alone? Do those molested think about it all the time, everyday? Or is it just something that sits in the back of their minds?By the way, I am not speaking for everyone. Thank you.

Answers:

I was molested by my dad from age 9 to 13, and I'm now 21. I can't speak for everyone, because sexual abuse effects people in different ways. I can't say that I think about my sexual abuse all day, every day. No, of course not. I'd be a lot more messed up than I am now. However, I do go through phases where I think about it more than others. For example, sometimes for a few weeks, I think about it every day, several times a day. NOT because I want to, but because I can't help it. For me, there are certain things that trigger it, like if I'm touched in a certain way, so I try to avoid that. I can't really average it out, but some days I think about it once, other days it pops up into my head over and over. It doesn't really help that I live with my dad still. (No sexual abuse is going on anymore). I guess I'm doing pretty well for someone who lives with the abuser.

As for being antisocial, I don't think I'm antisocial, but I'm very, very shy and have very bad anxiety. My anxiety hinders me from living my life to my full potential, and I don't have many friends at all. I don't want to be alone, but I can't trust a lot of people. It's very hard for me. I know that my anxiety comes from my past.



If you are trying to connect with someone that was abused or antisocial, try just having a relaxing conversation with them and make sure it's small talk. NEVER ask about them being molested.



I was molested when i was seven by my brother and abused by my parents. I like being alone and yeah sometimes i have flashbacks of what happend in the past.




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