Help, should I keep the baby...?!


Question: Help, should I keep the baby...?
I need some advice please. I'm 18 turning 19 in May, I don't go to school or have a job, but my boyfriend has a job. But he only makes around $1040 a month, he lives with his mom and I live in another state but I've been visiting him for a long time, but we were already planning on moving in together. He's 21. I know he wouldn't leave and would support me and the baby, he is a good guy truly. But his mom wants him to move out on his own soon, but I don't know how, since we have to buy a crib, stroller, and a hundred other things along with that. We would have to stay with her to buy those things then move when the baby is born but I don't think she'll let us? She's a nice lady but wants him to be responsible etc. but we need the help. And I haven't told my parents yet just two of my sisters one who freaked out over it and the other who was more calm about it and says it's my choice overall. I'm terrified to tell my dad, I'm not sure what to expect just nothing good. My mom, she might be more calm about it, because, please don't think badly of me, but I've had an abortion before. She didn't totally freak out that time and I think she would of helped but I don't know about now me being older and whatever other reasons. But one part of me deciding to keep it is if me and my boyfriend can go stay with her and she help us for a while, him getting a new job there of course. I don't want to tell my parents anything unless I keep it, yet again, I want to tell to see if they can help us out. If not, me and my boyfriend would get Welfare I'm pretty sure we'd be qualified. But I don't know how much they would give us, if it's enough and for how long they'd help. I'm stuck in the middle, it's so hard for me to decide, I really don't want to go through another abortion that really would kill me inside and I'd regret it forever. But it'll be a very hard time going through with keeping the child and I don't know when we'll be financially stable. If I tell my parents that I do keep the baby, what do I say? Deep down in my heart I want to keep it so bad but I don't know what's best.

Answers:

Just due to your situation.. it seems there is a lot of "what-ifs". It's not something you want to raise a child on. I'm also 19, and almost every one of my friends has a child. I'm really the only one who isn't. The only couple who is actually still together and semi-responsible with the child.. The mother lives with her parents and the baby and her boyfriend lives in MY boyfriend and my house. He's trying to get on his feet and get an apartment but with the baby's expenses he hasn't been able to save enough to do ANYTHING but the bare minimum, like eating.

It's honestly not a position you want to be in. It's very depressing to watch all these people and their, what's supposed to be most free and fun years, barely scraping by and having no lives of their own anymore. On the flip side, my mom was 17 when she had me. I later found out she had about 3 abortions until she had me. I always wanted a brother or sister, and it made me sad I could never have that because she was irresponsible.

If you really do want to keep the child, it would truly be best to put it up for adoption and request to keep in contact with the foster parents so you could still be in the child's life. People who are already established in life. People our age, especially in this economy are in no way, shape or form able to handle this type of responsibility.

Ultimately, it's your and his decision in the end. Just please be informed and realize what you're gettign into, and analyze what your child's life would be like if it were brought into the world under these circumstances. I just wanted to give you an unbiased opinion, because these pro/anti abortion people don't care about anything but their beliefs.

The people in my life I've witnessed.



Do what's best for the baby

I'm against aboution(the fetus is a living person)adoption is okay,open adoption is better....do what's right



definately keep, abortion is murder and you don't want that one you again!



thats kinda up to you



Honestly, drop the baby.
Sell everything, go on loooong cycling trip around the world.
Life is too short to live in a cubicle and work your *** off day in day out.



Condoms = $7.95
Baby-Adult $10,000 a year.

Okay, so now that's out of the way have you asked what your boyfriend thinks? I don't think it's fair to be one sided on a decision like this it's definitely best to both agree. This one is really all on you.




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