Is suicide the only way out with a personality disorder?!


Question: Is suicide the only way out with a personality disorder?
They are not treatable with meds and you can't change yourself.

Answers:

Hi Billy.

I know exactly what you are going through. It's not the actual PD that is making you suicidal, but depression which is one of the signs of Borderline PD.

What you need is an anti-d to combat this followed by some CBT and maybe ask the be referred to a therapeuic community, where everyone there has the same problems and give each other ideas on how to overcome it.

I frequent a forum called BPD World.



Suicide is not the answer. I'm not sure if you're referring to borderline personality disorder or the more serious antisocial personality disorder upon which the person does not feel remorse or guilt over hurt that they cause others. Please do talk with a clinical psychologist (Ph.D or Psy.D.) or licensed-clinical social worker (LCSW) for some cogntive-behavioral therapy (cbt) techniques which deals with how ones thoughts affect ones behavior.

Here is a toll-free 24-Hour helpline for those who are suicidal: 1-800-273-8255



You CAN recover.

A personality disorder is really another type of mood disorder, with some traits like chronic irritability, sudden and intense mood changes (like intense anger), paranoia, poor impulse control, and transitioning into a psychotic episode more easily under stress. The "personality disorder" part comes into it when you view other people as causing your moods and then you act out against those people, when it's not their fault. If you can understand that the mood swings are symptoms, and blame the disease, and not the people around you, then you can overcome the "personality disorder" part. Then, there are some techniques to help you manage the mood part.

Some people will advise you to "trust your instincts" in your interactions with people, but when you have a mood disoder and may be prone to paranoia, that can be bad advice. You need to hold yourself to the standards of a court of law. Hearsay and conjecture are inadmissable. Circumstantial evidence is a pretty weak basis for an accusation. You need verifiable facts, physical evidence. Never allow yourself to say anything that is not factually true. If you feel distrustful, exercise reasonable caution, but hold back from pointing a finger unless you can prove it beyond a shadow of a doubt.

You have a physical illness. Manage your moods like a diabetic manages his insulin. Recognize your body's signals, tense muscles, racing heart, shaking hands, gritted or grinding teeth, you'll know what it feels like. When you feel it, learn techniques for removing yourself from the stressors and calming yourself.

The key to dealing with stress is GOOD HEALTH -- diet, sleep and exercise. Lack of sleep = mood instability. Learn about sleep. Keep a regular schedule. Avoid naps. Limit light exposure before bedtime. Blood sugars highs and lows = mood instability. Eat a healthy diet. Lean meat, fresh fruit and veggies, whole grains and nuts. You NEED those vitamins. Exercise releases endorphins that stabilize mood.

Learn about health supplements. You have an illness, and are suffering deficiencies of some needed chemicals. There are important substances that are being depleted by stress. L-tryptophan (or 5HTP), taurine, inositol, choline, B-6, vitamin D-3 can help. Start reading and learning. You will be AMAZED at how much better you feel if you can get some of your chemicals back into balance. I just started Inositol, and it REALLY made a difference. Many people with mood disorders seek relief with drugs and alcohol. The right meds and supplements works much better.

There are real physical limits to the stress that your body can handle. So, leave yourself down time, quiet time, so you can get your stress hormone levels back down. Take warm baths, light candles, play soft music, read a good book -- unwind.

Learn about personal boundaries. That's where counselling comes in. Learn how much stress you can handle. Say "no" without guilt or excuses and do not over-commit yourself. There is a reason that the Serenity Prayer is so famous. One of the key maladaptive behaviors of a personality disorder is trying to control things that you technically have no control over. You must respect a person's right to their decisions, and they should respect your right to make your own, as well.

Avoid people who cause you stress or make you feel bad. If you can't avoid them, then actively manage your interactions. Control the topic of conversation, keep it short, and excuse yourself if it starts to go wrong.

Always repeat this to yourself. "There is nothing that makes a person so completely unattractive as a person who does not appreciate ME." Trying to chase after a person who has decided against a relationship is trying to control something you cannot control. Even if you did succeed, you would end up with a total loser who doesn't appreciate you, and would treat you like dirt.

Practice mental hygeine. Interrupt negative thoughts, even if you have to recite the ABC's or count to a million. Find something to laugh at several times a day. Laughter releases endorphins that stabilize mood. The simple uncomplicated affection helps to stabilize mood.

A personality disorder can be treated with nutritional health, and some meds can play a role in your recovery (although there is always a tradeoff with meds). You CAN change your understanding of your interactions with other people, and learn new habits of thought and behavior. The cure for a personality disorder is the accumulation of many, many small changes in health and thought and behavior.

Get some emotional support. Read forums for people with anxiety, depression and personality disorders. Find out what works for them.

I have lived it. I know that what I say is true. I wish you the best of luck!! Please don't give up.



learn to live with it, it will be alright your life is good. You have food, shelter, and people who care for you. You truly do, keep going. Try to be a good person



God can change anyone and everything. Perhaps you've been looking for a solution in the wrong place.




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