How to stop over-analyzing this situation?!


Question: How to stop over-analyzing this situation?
I am 20 and for some reason my brain does not think I am a virgin. Physically, I still have my hymen intact. My ex said that I am a virgin and he is one as well as we did not have sex. This was two months ago. Around that same time we had a conversation online via skype and I asked him: "Is it bad that I want to lose my virginity to you?" The thing is is that after that conversation, I did not see him again. Its pathetic because a couple of weeks ago I knew I was a virgin and it is impossible for me to not be a virgin because I did not see him after that skype conversation.My mind is screwing me over and thinking: "No, you are not a virgin anymore". Its like my mind does not trust what I said to my ex in that skype conversation about me asking if its bad that I want to lose it to him. Its like my mind thinks what I said was a lie. This is making me over-analyze all the conversations and everything I said. This is ruining my life. I cant seem to calm down. What can I do? How do I stop this madness?

Answers:

In all seroiusness take a few deep breathes (count to 4 in, count to 4 out), take a pen and paper, and focus on whatever is on your mind. You obviously know you are a virgin since you had the mindset to ask this question so right that down in a "facts" column. Write out a fiction column and write what bad thoughts you are having. If you can sort it out this way you can have a more visual deterrent vs you going back and forth with yourself repeatedly. You just needa calm down a bit and concentrate on all the reasons you know you are a virgin and that you didnt lose it over a conversation. For every time you write something wrong or that you think is right but know is wrong, write 2 things down for how you know you are not. For example if you write " I am not a virgin anymore" then in the opposite column you could write " I only talked about it , I am a virgin" and "We were not together when it happened so we couldn't have had sex".




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