should i tell somone i am cutting myself?? Helpp?? How=//?!

dude I am a 23yr old male, and I self harm and been seeing therapists etc for along time now.

The best advice you are EVER going to get, is to print/write down what you have wrote as a question and hand it into your therapist.

I know you already said you didn't and scared of what is going to be done/said. You have to trust me dude, (y the hell am I saying dude? i never say dude. *shrugs*) oh yeah where was I? oh right.

The therapist and your parents are their to help you, they care because your their if they didn't believe me you wouldn't be as far as you have gotten. Do as I say, just trust ok.

And the others are calling you that because you are dressed stereotypicaly thats why, and I understand how that is making you worse.

You cannot lie to your therapist no matte how scared you are, you will get worse not better.
Show the therapst ALL YES ALL of what you have wrote do not RE-EDIT thats right RE-EDIT what you have already put down.

Cutting as you may have figured out already is highly adictive and extremely dangerous. for this reason alone you should show your question to somebody.

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good luck man take care, and be safe when cutting.

If you can tell verbally your mum, (who is the first person i think you should tell) why not show her this post and leave the room so as not to feel embarrased. Or do the same with your sister or your sisters friends mum. Tell Anyone who is not doing the same. You must get help.
Hope things work out ok.

tell your parents. they are the nearest who can feel and understand you. and telling them will not damage your self esteem. you are part of them.

Does your school offer a counselling service?

You should definitely go to that rehab

yes . i think you should.

Well, to start with, ignore the idiots that label you, they're sad wastes of space for judging. Anyway, I found out at one point that a friend of mine self harmed, for no reason, she was a rather happy person and she didn't know why she did it. The only reason I found out was by accident however she said that telling people about it, even though she felt they were disappointed, helped a lot. I would defiantly talk to your friend that's been to South Oaks and see what they think, they're guess is as good, if not better, than anybody. I would just try not to worry about people's reactions and simply ask them for help with it rather than just confess. Anyway, I wish you the best and good luck with telling somebody.

In Cardiff wales we have a wonderful centre called The Amber Project and they offer non judgemental help and support. You can contact them by phone or email and if you do this they'll be able to put you in touch with groups in your area .
You've taken a big step by asking for advice here please please contact them (or a similar agency)

Good luck x

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Yes! It will only get worse if you don't. It's ok to be scared when it comes to talking to your parents about it. If I was you, I would go to a rehab like South Oaks to see if it helps. I know people who cute themselves, but never get help for it. They sometimes cut to the point of being rushed to the hospital. I've tried to get them to stop, but what people don't seem to understand is that it's not all that easy. I don't want you hurting yourself anymore than what you've already done. Hurting yourself may seem like it solves all of your problems, but it doesn't. Seeking help does!

Yes you definitely should tell someone, but maybe start off by telling one of your friends, probably your best bet would be telling the friend who just came back from South Oaks, just to start off, then tell your parents, they wont be disappointed, they will just be concerned for your well-being!
How, yeah now the hard part. Its easy for everyone else to just say out with it, but they're not put in the same situation, and I understand that, but it is the truth they're right. Just tell them exactly what you have already told me; that you don't want people to label and judge you, they will understand. I have had this kind of conversation twice with my parents, once with anorexia and the second time with skin cancer. I find the best way, is to tell them one by one, because if they're sat together they will be thinking more of what they say. So maybe talk to the parent who gets home first and then the other. Best way is to ask them not to speak at all until you have finished, make them promise, then come out with the exact problem first, and then go through the details like how you don't want to be labeled. Then ask how they feel about it and all that. The relief afterwards is worth the initial nerves and butterflies! I hope this has helped!! Tessa xx

own experience

As hard as it is you must try to rise above the name calling. It's the people doing it that have the problem, not you.You have a right to express yourself in any way you choose.
Also, you must get help for the cutting. I don't always condone not going to your parents first, but I feel maybe you will be less embarrassed about talking to your family doctor or a sympathetic teacher or school counsellor. It is very important that you get help. It is the first thing you must do. Cutting is a way of externalising mental pain and with the right help you will get over this. I wonder if you should think about changing therapists as you say it is not helping you. You need to have trust in your therapist and sometimes you need to see a few before you find one you feel at ease with. I saw 5 before I felt any connection and I am happy to say I am now recovered.
I would advise not telling friends though as I think you need to speak to a professional person who has seen this before and who will not judge you. Nobody has the right to judge you or call you names. A friend may be sympathetic but you might not be able to trust them to keep it confidential.
I sincerely hope you get the right help and support, remember you deserve it. And don't give up.
All my best wishes to you

Personal experience

Kara -- Some people might judge you but you'll pick someone who will be concerned for you and help you get help. You don't have to be by yourself as you say. I think it would be logical to tell your therapist. Don't worry about disappointing your parents. They'll be more disappointed if they find out about it because you cut yourself too deeply or get an infection. You are worth it! I hope you'll value yourself enough to talk to someone or print off your post and show it to someone.

Fifteen's a tough age. I too felt alone and depressed, but then I got into film making. That turned out to be the perfect medium to channel everything inside me, and now I make a living off of it.

I would stay clear of the cutting. Because as much as you don't want to be labeled as "emo", dark clothing, dyed hair, low self-esteem, and cutting are all familiar symptoms of a stereotypical emo kid.

So my advice is to find something that makes you happy. I know high school is all about wanting to fit in and be accepted, but nobody leaves high school unscathed. So do what matters to you. Because to be completely honest, you don't need everyone's approval in order for you to be happy. I'd also come clean with your parents, because you don't want those regrets to get heavier over time.

my powerful mind.

You should tell someone. You are looking for help not attention and in order to get it you have to ask for it. A good place to start might be your sisters friends who just got out for it. She will be understanding and will know how you feel. She might be able to tell you how to talk to your parents about it and get help. You are going to have to talk to them at some point because it will be worse for them to find out on their own they will feel like you didn't trust them enough to tell them. Yes, people are going to be childish and try to judge you, I have been there, but you know yourself why you feel that way. Honestly there is usually something more to making someone cut like being abused, raped, drugs, etc. Get yourself some help sweetie the sooner the better.

Personal Experiance