Should I commit suicide? No joke!!!?!


Question: Should I commit suicide? No joke!!!?
I'm 19. I've just realized that I'm asexual and that I hate sex. So now I can never get married. I have to live by myself forever. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life, but I have to. No girl is ever going to want to be with me. I made a mistake when I was younger thinking that I would get married one day & start a family. I don't have any friends. All I have is me. Some positive things about me are that I'm going to college in the fall. I graduated highschool in the top of my class. I have a lot of hobbies. I work. I'm in shape from working out & doing highschool sports. I'm not really the best athlete though. I'll probably just continue to lift weights in college. But I feel alone right now. I can't help it that I hate sex. It's just me. So should I just kill myself? Thank you for your help.

Answers:

Hope the following might help you.

SUICIDE
Our hearts go out to those who have thoughts of ending their own lives through suicide. If that is you right now, it may speak of many emotions, such as feelings of hopelessness and despair. You may feel like you are in the deepest pit, and you doubt there is any hope of things getting better. No one seems to care or understand where you are coming from. Life just is not worth living...or is it?

If you will take a few moments to consider letting God truly be God in your life right now, He will prove how big He really is, “for nothing is impossible with God” (Bible). Perhaps scars from past hurts have resulted in an overwhelming sense of rejection or abandonment. That may lead to self-pity, anger, bitterness, vengeful thoughts, or unhealthy fears that have caused problems in some of your most important relationships.

Why suicide? Friend, no matter how bad things are in your life, there is a God of love who is waiting for you to let Him guide you through your tunnel of despair and out into His marvelous light. He is your sure hope. His name is Jesus. Jesus Christ endured all this so that you might have all your sins forgiven. Whatever weight of guilt you carry, know that He will forgive you if you humbly receive Him as your Savior. “...Call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you...” (Psalm 50:15). Nothing you have ever done is too bad for Jesus to forgive.
Friend, God stands ready to repair what is “broken,” namely, the life you have now, the life you want to end by suicide. Come to Jesus, and let Him restore your joy and usefulness as you trust Him to begin a new work in your life. He promises to restore the joy you have lost and give you a new spirit to sustain you. If you desire to trust Jesus Christ as your Savior, speak these words in your heart to God: “God, I need you in my life. Please forgive me for all that I have done. I place my faith in Jesus Christ and believe that He is my Savior. Please cleanse me, heal me, and restore my joy in life. Thank You for Your love for me and for Jesus' death on my behalf.” www.spintruth.com Contact for further help: interact24@yahoo.



You have your whole life ahead of you and shouldn't commit suicide. When you commit suicide it hurts everyone that loves and cares for you. But if you are seriously thinking about this then you need to call a suicide hotline or visit one of the websites.

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html



No, suicide isn't a quick escape. Trust me, I tried it. Twice.
Best thing to do is make some friends and hang out with them. You say you are sporty. Go and join a sports club or something. I find that when I'm distressed and down smoking some pot is good. Or going for a drink at a pub, not too much though.



NOTHING IS WORTH KILLING YOURSELF OVER; NOTHING.
I too have been suicidal, its beyond terrifying. Do you honestly believe that you are not going to find anybody?! .. asexual or not. You cannot control the human heart. If someone falls for you, they'll fall for you. Being asexual isn't as rare as you think. Lifestyle hard, but try harder and ten years from now you'll be awfully grategul. I'm here anytime you wish to talk. X



no you shouldnt kill yourself especially about something like this. people have gone through far worse than this and havent killed themselves. just cos you dont like sex doesnt mean you can never get married. find someone else that doesnt like sex and you'll be ok.



You are in 21st century, there is treatment for any problem. Please find a doctor and get good treatment so that you can be happy for your whole life. Only the cowards commit suicide.



No, suicide is always a bad idea. Consult a mental health professional.

Jesus loves you.



Just get a grip of yourself first and then refresh your memory. Drink some water and that will help you relieve some pain.



You shouldn't kill yourself for what you are, or who you are. Everyone's great in there own way.



No!!!! You there is someone for everyone out there there are ppl like you am sure u can find a girl with your same interest.
Take care. Life is prescious!



Okay--what stands out that you wrote was this; "I feel alone--RIGHT NOW".
Who knows how you will feel in an hour----or tomorrow--or next week!
I don't know how long you have been on Zoloft--and when Abilify was added--but antidepressants take time to reach a therapeutic level.
You actually have alot going for you--and college life opens alot of doors, and not just academically. You will meet all kinds of people with various backgrounds and interests, etc. For most people, it is the best time of their lives.
And, as for sex? I wouldn't worry about it. Not everyone enjoys it, or is even interested in it.
Some people never have sex their entire life!
So don't put so much pressure and expectations on yourself.
best wishes.

25 yrs psychiatric healthcare



Well, first off..since you're taking Abilify and Zoloft, I'm guessing you're seeing a doctor at least. You may wish to discuss these issues with him/her.

No, you should not commit suicide. Suicide is permanent. You sound like you have a lot of positives going for you. You may just be in a phase. Even if you're not, sex is not the only reason we live. At 19, you are so young. Perhaps you will discuss this with your doctor and find out you have a low testosterone level or something like that.

Hang in there. You're a valuable person and the world would miss you.



Your most likely not asexual, those meds your taking are notorious for killing a guys sex drive not to mention the functionality of the sex organs. I know how you are feeling right now, its like being chemically castrated and is not right that you or any other guy should have to feel this way. I do not know why you are taking Abilify and Zoloft but you need to tell your doctor whats going on and he or she can change your meds. 19 is no age to loose your sex drive. Also, as you get older you realize that there is a lot more to having a woman than sex, the emotional part of a relationship is the most important, and most married guys will tell you that marriage kills sex. I have been on every anti-depressant available and it took a couple of years tapering off but my sex drive returned with a vengeance and no matter how low I get I refuse to take any anti-depressants. The only thing I take now is Seroquel which is an anti-psychotic for severe panic attacks. Even though it makes me so drowsy I can only take it at night I will tell you it has some really positive effects on the sex drive and physical functions.



Don't lose heart, there's always light at the end of the tunnel.
Problems are not permanent, and success is never ending.
You are only 19 and have a long way to go. Life can be beautiful if you choose to.

Go and learn new approaches to managing your relationship, I recommend you to read the book by Richard Hamon, who is a professional therapist and coach with many years of experience. The solution is universal, and all it needs is a desire for change, and acknowledging the needs to do things differently.

Read his article on this website : http://bit.ly/ePD7QL
Also there is reason to rejoice... find out why : http://bit.ly/gxuGRy



The drugs you're on can potentially reduce sex drive. If this bothers you, you should talk to your doctor about it. These drugs are also linked to increased thoughts of suicide. If you're considering suicide, you should definitely talk to your doctor about it, and potentially change your medication. I take risperidone, and have taken Depakote and Geodon to control mania. I have a brother who takes Abilify and Seroquel, and has been on several other drugs for controlling bipolar disorder. I know those side effects can be nasty. Finding the right medication and right dose is generally an ongoing process. A good doctor will work with you to tailor your regimen, if you're having bad side effects. You need to tell your doctor about your symptoms, though.

If this helps, I'll tell you that I've never been very sexually motivated. When I was younger, the way my friends acted in attempts to get in bed with a partner, and the way they acted while in sexual relationships, was often totally immature and self-destructive, and destructive to others, and really annoyed me at times. For a long time, I was turned off to sexual relationships in general by how I saw my friends handle them. I had a number of (abstinent) relationships, but I didn't find a partner that I actually wanted to have sex with until I was 24. If it bothers you that you won't have sex, you'll eventually feel more comfortable with yourself and with sex. If you're truly asexual, then I'd imagine that there's nothing to worry about; you're free to do exactly what you want with your life, without worrying about having to support a family or answer to a significant other, and nothing prevents you from forming strong friendships and maintaining family ties. While I wasn't having sex, I had a lot of time free to study psychology, anthropology, and physics, as well as to write (still do, actually).

Life can be whatever you want it to be, and that's okay. You should talk to your doctor about this, though, as well as a therapist.

For info about Zoloft's side effects: http://www.zoloft.com/index.aspx?source=google&HBX_PK=s_zoloft&HBX_OU=50&o=59263929|235403146|0&skwid=43000000391207429

For info about Abilify's side effects: http://www.healthyplace.com/other-info/psychiatric-medications/abilify-aripiprazole-patient-information/menu-id-72/




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