Should I tell my boyfriend about my eating disorder?!
Question: Should I tell my boyfriend about my eating disorder?
The reason I told him and still have not gotten help, is because when I was 9 months into my disorder, I told my school counselor and he told my parents with my permission and my parents never got me help. So I don't depend on them anymore to help me. I have been alone with this since it developed.
Anyway, my boyfriend gets really upset when he knows I've been throwing up. He'll not be as talkative and he just seems all down and unhappy when I tell him. I know he cares, and he told me to tell him when I purge, but I haven't been. I lie about it all the time; at least if he asks me. He doesn't really ever ask me, so I don't really say anything.
Part of me wants this to just be my own thing to deal with, but another part of me wants to tell him when I purge. I purged tonight and I have several times since the last time I told him I did, but I'm not sure if I should tell him I'm having a hard time with it right now. He will probably just say that he's not going to eat because it won't be fair that I'm not eating and he is. (He's done that before). I want to prevent this, but if I don't tell him, I know he'll find out eventually or will ask before I say anything and then I'll have to tell him and he'll probably get more upset. What should I do? :( Please help.
Answers:
Of course he is upset. He knows that your behavior is endangering your health and, if he really cares for you, then he is frustrated that he is not able to do anything to help you. If you parents refuse to get you any help then you need to research some local support organizations in your area. They will provide you with counseling and they will point you in the right direction to get the help that you so desperately need.
The most effective treatment for bulimia has been shown to be hospitalisation for a minimum of 12 weeks. It may not be an option for some people.
There are some, few, people who can beat bulimia without treatment, as with other addictions, like heroin. Bulimia has a high death rate.
Treat it like the addiction that it is. Google: "treatment; bulimia nervosa; (your location)" and similarly with support groups, and/or http://www.something-fishy.org/ & http://dailystrength.org Go there, when you feel the need most. Check out http://www.pamf.org/
847-831-3438 (USA).
Some preliminary results of studies on high dose inositol (vitamin B8) supplements show promising results for people suffering from problems such as bulimia, panic disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, agoraphobia, and unipolar and bipolar depression.[6] ^ a b c Nick, Gina L. (2004). "Inositol as a treatment for psychiatric disorders: a scientific evaluation of its clinical effectiveness". Townsend Letter for Doctors and Patients (October). http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0… Retrieved 2008-05-24. (Wikipedia.org). Google: "inositol; supplies"
Hypnosis is merely a heightened state of suggestibility, in which you are better able to communicate with your subconscious mind. 85% of people are suggestible, to some degree, so you could either preferably seek professional hypnotherapy. If not an option, try (free) freehypnosistreatment.com ADDICTIONS (make a small donation, if helped; they rely on them to keep the free service operating), or Bulimia Treatment, at hypnosisdownloads.com
Read: Bulimia: A Guide to Recovery - Understanding and Overcoming the Binge-Purge Syndrome by Lindsey Hall and Leigh Cohn, from your bookstore, or amazon.com and enter "bulimia" in their searchbar for more media.
View: http://your-mental-health.weebly.com/n.html about eating disorders, where this came from, for much more. Addictions; see page 6.