Should I commit suicide? No joke!!!?!


Question: Should I commit suicide? No joke!!!?
I'm 19. I've just realized that I'm asexual and that I hate sex. So now I can never get married. I have to live by myself forever. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life, but I have to. No girl is ever going to want to be with me. I made a mistake when I was younger thinking that I would get married one day & start a family. I don't have any friends. All I have is me. Some positive things about me are that I'm going to college in the fall. I graduated highschool in the top of my class. I have a lot of hobbies. I work. I'm in shape from working out & doing highschool sports. I'm not really the best athlete though. I'll probably just continue to lift weights in college. But I feel alone right now. I can't help it that I hate sex. It's just me. So should I just kill myself? Thank you for your help.


p.s. I'm taking Abilify & Zoloft

Answers:

No. The short answer.
There is a wide range of sex drive in humans. There are a lot of times when each human feels alone, From the going to high school part, you're at an age where you're just finding out who you are. There are times when trying sex with someone can leave us feeling badly, and cause self doubt, self blaming, etc..
People have a wide range of responses to an early sexual experience, and I'm wondering if you've just had one that left you feeling kind of empty, for whatever reason. It doesn't mean you'll never have a satisfying experience. Some people feel badly about sex, because they have a belief about it that makes them feel bad when they encounter it.
Talk to a guidance counsellor about this idea. They're more experienced, and have likely been through some times when they felt like giving up too. It's something we all feel at one time or another. Teh counsellor also will not make your discussion public, you can go with the certainty that you'll be heard, and listened carefully to. They may find another counsellor who is talented at sorting out the reasons why people feel confused about their sexuality. [common for teen age, young adults]
It sounds like you actually have a lot of good things going for you. And like you need some time to organize your thoughts about the experience that left you thinking you hate sex.
Good luck with it, and remember the short answer, NO.



You need to see another doc. This one isn't doing much for you by just giving you pills. You need to see a psychologist to talk about this. People on here are willing to help, but you need to talk to a person IN person.

There might be something in your past that makes you feel that you hate sex and a psychologist will help you dig it up and get past it.

Killing yourself won't hurt anyone except you.



you can have a perfectly happy life with out having sex, sex isn't everything!!



you clearly havent found the right person you love and thats why you dont enjy sex. dont kill yourself because you will find someone eventually



Is suicide the ultimate solution????



you already asked this stop attention seeking



No way your life has lots going for it it just seems crap at the moment it'll improve.



try harder troll



First of all, there has to be a reason why you feel asexual. The reason can only be determined by some serious counseling. Sometimes if we are able to identify the source of the problem, we can learn how to control it without it controlling us. Something is sitting somewhere in your sub conscience that needs to be addressed. Please get some professional counseling and face this problem aggressively. You can beat this challenge, but it takes help. Best wishes to you. I hope you take my advice and you can report back that you have been successful in determining how you dealt with the issue. You may be able to help many people who are in the same situation you find yourself in.



I don't think suicide is the answer. I know things are hard for you, but maybe you should try different meds. Have you tried lithium yet? It's cheap and no side effects. It's also been around for like 40 years so it has been well tested.

Abilify and Zoloft, I think, both have occasional problems with teens and younger people. That's why I'm suggesting you talk to your doctor about different meds.

Also, why do you hate sex? Do you simply have no desire? No problem there, most women have no desire either (my experience). Stress could also lower your libido. Remove your problems (get away from bad people) and that might help the stress and the libido.

Don't take this the wrong way, but have you thought you migth be gay, or bi, but you are having a tough time admitting that to yourself? In order to be happy you have to accept yourself as you are. But it's hard when people like to spread hate and say someone loving the same sex is bad. Why is love bad?

Suicide is not the answer, you simply haven't found the right meds. Good luck to you.




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