Seriously, I want to die, I can't stand all this waiting! What should I do?!


Question: Seriously, I want to die, I can't stand all this waiting! What should I do?
Waiting for a blessing. I can't get a boyfriend and i'm worried about being a little gay because of the Bible. I want no pity cause It won't solve anything and I hate my talentless stupid life fill with people that hate me for nothing. No boy wants me because I am not thin and or "hot" no prom date. I'm 17 on the verge of cracking unless somebody actually help me or else i'll attack! I hate the world and i want to bite!
I'm angry and let me die I can't take this life anymore!
I tried praying but what if He is sick of me like I am. Either i am depressed or dead!!

Answers:

You're only 17 you have your whole life ahead of you to learn skills and get guys. A whole life that WILL get better with time. You just have to stay positive. I suggest finding someone to talk to. Your parents or a counselor at school. Don't wait too long either. When you're under 18 you have tons of options available to you for help, but after 18 it gets a little harder to get people to listen (or at least this is what my C&Y worker tells me about my therapy).

It's not too hard to fix up your life if you're unhappy with it. There are community centres with cheap classes and clubs, there are places where you can volunteer and really make a difference in the world. You cannot rely on God or boyfriends or anyone to make you happy. You have to find the will, the strength in yourself to make yourself happy. Learn what makes you beautiful, what makes you worth another day. Talking to someone, a friend or a professional, or even just learning some skills can really help you see the positive.



You just need someone to talk to :) You can email me if you'd like to, I've been in the same situation before but for different reasons. & If your gay, that's who you are, who cares!



There is more to life than having a boyfriend.

If you want help, please go arrange an appointment with your doctor or if you are suicidal, please ring the emergency services (or national helplines for suicidal people).



why dont u hit the gym use acne medicine if u have it just makes urself look good and wear make up sexy clothing get a makeover and loose weight if ur fat you can change it stop crying oooh omg i cant get a bf maybe u should stop eating so much



Can't tell if trolling, or just very stupid.



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Dont judge yourself on what an old book says. Talk to other gays for support



Stop waiting. God helps those who help themselves.

You're not hot? Eat a little less, do a little more exercise, smile more, act more flirty and more confident. You'll be hot in no time. (Even some heavy girls are considered hot because of their "look" or manner.)

Instead of waiting, do something. Show God and yourself that you are a worthy, loveable person. Help others! Volunteer in any way or ways that suit your talents. If not in an organized way, do it in a casual way: if you happen to see someone who is down, ask to hear their story; if you notice an elderly neighbor rarely has visitors, pay a visit.

With other spare time, make phone calls. Arrange for other "dateless" girls to get together for fun activities. Join a hobby group or sports group or discussion group. Take an enrichment class and get to meet a whole new set of people. Get a part-time job where you'll meet a whole new set of people.

I'm not sure you can be a "little" gay. You either are or aren't (or can go for both). Due to your pining for a boy, I'd guess you're not. But if you are, there are two ways to look at what the bible says: If you take it literally, the way some sects do, God does love gays but prohibits the EXPRESSION of gayness. Ways to handle not expressing your sexuality would be to masterbate (also not allowed by some sects) or to get out your energy in sports or other activity. You could live with another woman but not do sexual things with her. (You could hug her all night!) But if everybody took EVERYTHING the bible said literally, the whole world would be a very different place with many, many rules that almost no one follows in this day and age (slavery allowed, for example). Some people look at the Bible as God's way of suggesting improvements to people OF THAT TIME. Others look at some sections and can see that God meant for it to be interpreted, not taken literally. Others look at it as a work of Man who was trying to get his fellow man to behave more morally. According to most religions, even sinners go to heaven, so if you did practice your sexuality you would still go to heaven. Other religions admit you to heaven no matter what your religion and what your life choices are, as long as you were following your conscience. I doubt if anything in your own conscience tells you that it's wrong to live out your life the way nature made you.

Keep praying. But also, start DOING. And if that doesn't help, see a psychiatrist. You're "17 and on the verge of cracking." You're also 17 and on the verge of graduating into an entirely different way of life. You'll be an adult with the opportunities to make more of your own decisions. Sure, a boyfriend would be nice, but many, many girls don't have their first boyfriend until college or even after. The prom is one night. One day you will meet the person (whether it's male or female) who will love you for who you are and who will be everything important that you ever wanted in a spouse. Then you will have the rest of your lives to be happy together. In the end, does it matter if 'forever" starts when you're 17 or 20 or 30? Meanwhile, as I said above, fill your life with purposes that DO matter. Work on your studies, your friendships, your hobbies. Make yourself and your life so interesting that 1) you won't be bored and feel like you're just "waiting" and 2) you'll seem more attractive to potential sweethearts. In the worst moments, you can fill the "waiting" hole by reading a book or by helping others who have problems on Y!Answers!

Lots of people your age feel this way. (Including people who are depressed BECAUSE they had a sweetheart and it ended or is heading for an end.) You "can't take this life"? Throw it out and start a new one! You can do it. What do you have to lose?



Wow I so understand how you feel minus the being gay, but what I can tell you is that God loves you no matter what and that suicide is not the way out believe me.
I know life is hard.. I went through 5 years of hoping every night I went to sleep that I wouldn't wake up. But I found out that there is so much more than what you're seeing right now. High school sucks, but it gets better, so much better. I know death may seem like the better way out but its not, and God does have a plan for you, you just have to keep going.
I know it might be a little awkward but if you want to talk to someone you can email me shadow_in_the_dark12@yahoo.com

18 year old girl who gets it. Seriously




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