Is it wrong to hurt my little brother?!

If you ignore your physical and emotional health, and even attack your own body (cutting, drugs, alcohol, caffeine, poor diet) or mind (hanging with emotionally unhealthy people and not enforcing personal boundaries), your body or your mind will fail you. You'll develop severe mood and personality disorders, personal and business relationships will fail, you can have legal troubles, and devlope stress related disorders like type 2 diabetes and high blood pressure, with the danger of strokes and heart attack. Eventually, you will undermine your immune system, and make yourself vulnerable to illnesses like flu, pneumonia and even cancer.

There are many strategies that work together to help relieve anxiety and depression. The solution is not one thing, but many small changes in your life that add up to a big change.

Measure yourself by your interal standards, not by what people say. Anxiety is about about you not doing what YOU think you should be doing. You asked about hurting your brother, and you mentioned cutting, so those are a couple things that you have anxiety about. Simple - just don't do it, and you don't have to worry about it. Two sources of anxiety -- gone!

"Wanting" to cut is compulsive behavior, like alcoholism, drug addiction and eating disorders. It is a self-soothing behavior because it releases endorphins. The shame and guilt of cutting, however, also cause your body to release stress-related chemicals, like cortisol. So, the act of cutting causes more stress than it relieves, which is why you have been cutting, but your condition is not improving.

The mind affects the body and the body affects the mind. When you are sad, your body is tired and achy. When don't sleep or eat, you get sad, frustrated or angry. So, the the first thing to tackle when you have anxiety and depression is your physical health. Get healthy sleep - stay on a sleep schedule, avoid light exposure in the hour before bedtime, avoid long naps, make sure you are breathing well (treat allergies or apnea). Exercise releases endorphins to stablize mood. Eat health - lean meats, fresh fruits and veggies, whole grains and nuts. Avoid sugar - blood sugar surges and drops can affect mood. Avoid caffeine - disrupts sleep and causes anxiety. Get fresh air and sunshine.

Persons suffering stress, anxiety and depression have depleted certain chemicals in the body. Consider using vitamin supplements to help your body recover. A good multi-vitamin. A stress-B complex. Research shows that Inositol is very effective in many anxiety disorder. Calcium and Magnesium (Magnesium is a muscle relaxant). 5-HTP or L-tryptophan. Taurine. B-6. Large doses of Vitamin D3 (I take one mixed with C and probiotics). Read about what they do.

Relaxation will alter body chemicals. Lavender aromatherapy. Massage. Self-hypnosis. Expressing yourself through arts and crafts. Music therapy. Time with pets. Even relaxing surroundings (Feng Shui).

After the body is healthy, you have to keep it that way by managing your stress. The key to that is a strong emotional support network and strong personal boundaries (good fences make good neighbors). Build up your relationships to friends, parents of friends, teachers, neighbors, relatives outside the home -- people who are sensible, listen to you, give good advice, and care. Avoid people who make you feel bad. Know where your authority starts and ends and where other people's authority starts and ends. Don't give unsolicited adivce or meddle in other people's business and don't let people do it to you. Say "no" without guilt or excuses. Actively control your interactions. It's OK to say, politely, "I am not going to discuss that with you", or excuse yourself and go to the bathroom and forget to come back. Meet difficult people on neutral territory so you can leave when they get unbearable (much easier then throwing them out). There are many more tactics to use. Read up.

If people say cruel or inappropriate things to you, always ask yourself if you have done the best that you can do. If you have lived up to your own standards, then you have no reason for anxiety. Often, such a person is struggling with their own untreated mental health issues, and if you can recognize this, you can find compassion for them and ignore them like you would ignore a child who is acting out.

You are sort of on the right track with cutting, in the sense that you realize that you need to exercise some control over the chemical balances in your body. But, you need to know more. Stress releases cortisol. Cortisol affects insulin and blood pressure. Your life LITERALLY depends on you getting a handle on this. Over time, if you don't get it under control, you are looking at a quick heart attack.

And, yes. It's wrong to hurt your brother because YOU think it's wrong, or you wouldn't have asked.

Best Wishes and Good Luck!!

depends on the age of your brother, me and my brother are both 19 and we hurt each other all the time ha-ha nothing wrong with being a little feisty. and regarding your depression, understand that nobody is better than you and you have the potential to be whatever you want. Life is an amazing experience and you wont know how good you've got it till its gone.

As a big brother you should know that never to hurt your little brother in a way which he'll Really get hurt inside...get it? like hurt his feelings and stuff. yea its ok to hurt him like all get-along brothers do, its an understanding, that's a brother-brother love. but dont cross a line where you'll be enemies when you grow up. so think 10 steps ahead of what you're about to do and how it's gonna turn out to be.
Promise yourself that no matter what, you'll always care for your little brother and take good care of him even when you guys get old. age never matters here. the responsibility matters. and as a big brother, you should make yourself realize that you should not be acting like an idiotic @sshole to him.
and to never be apart. stick together. he's you little brother man!! not some rubbish off the streets.

yeah its wrong
whilst your brother is old enough to show some respect he is also young enough to not now when to stop taking things so far
all siblings argue that is a fact but its wrong to hurt him
get some help for your issues rather then taking it out on other ppl because one day you may go to far

do not start cutting it will be one of your biggest mistakes
it becomes addictive very easily and do you want to go a few yrs cutting
ask your parents to get you some help or talk to a school counsellor or teacher that you trust
best wishes

When he does these things, just take a deep breath, and go
to your room and distract yourself by doing something like
reading, watching t.v, or writing. It's not right that he's hurting you,
or your hurting him. Just try to calm down when you says stuff, and
tell your parents that his jokes bother you and you want them
to talk to him

i think you already know the answer to this question. of course it is wrong, if you are only play fighting it is ok but since you are actually hurting him it is not ok.
i am a cutter hunny and trust me it is not something you want to get into. it is very addictive and you can find a better way to cope with things. i have ugly scars all over my wrists, arms, legs and stomach - you dont want the same. go see your doctor s/he can help you.
best of luck x

common sense

Ya man it is and I know its hard for you to tolerate the mishap, why not trying to go for mutual understanding....try to do things that are liked by both of you.
I was also passing with the same situation and somebody suggested to do mischief together and now we are the best friend.