How can I change all of this?!


Question: How can I change all of this?
I don't get along with my family. I can't complete anything I start. I hate it when people waist my time. I like being alone. I have no money to do anything. I'm bullied and picked on at school, and my mom won't change me out of public school or let me transfer schools to start over. I am very emotional the slightest thing makes me mad/sad / offended... How can I make all this stop. I hate it and I'm scared about life I feel like I'm going to be a total failure. what can I do.

Answers:

Alright, let's see. First of all, if it's really that serious, I agree with the previous answer about seeking a therapist.

You need to love your self before you can achieve anything. I know you probably heard it a lot and many people say they do, when in reality they overlook it. Loving yourself will give you confidence and make you more sociable. Look at all your good qualities and love your self for them, tell yourself you do.

It will also help you to become less emotional because you don't concentrate on what other people say about you as much. Don't let others control your happiness. You are the only person that matters. I know all of this is a bit of a narcissistic approach, but healthy narcissism is much better then insecurities and such. You become much more confident and people can sense that about you, thus over time, will stop picking on you.

Don't cling on to what others say. I am really skinny and used to be very ashamed of it. Now that someone makes a rude comment about my body type (which is rare because people know it doesn't affect me), I just laugh it off and say something like, you wish you had those "cannons" like me.

Since you like being alone, I am guessing you have a social problem. Start being more fun. Don't complain to others - it's unattractive. Not that you shouldn't talk to your friends about your problems but don't over do it and do it in a creative way. Otherwise, they will get bored and tired of it easily as you only talk about yourself. Smile! Sparkle conversations with people. If you see you are getting along, suggest you should hang out some time. Go out! Dance clubs, recreational activities, there are so many things to do, I wish I had time for all of them. Start playing sports, basketball, soccer, maybe more extreme like parkour, snowboarding. It's fun, it looks cool and you get along with tons of people.

I don't really get along with my family either, but I found what helps is just swallowing up the pride and when my parents are constantly shouting, just walk away and don't argue. Don't let them feed up their ego even more and bring you down by arguing, nothing good will come out.

Money problem - get a job.

Never think you are going to be a failure, you can achieve anything in life. Be confident. There have been numerous psychological studies that proved that your inner self image, determines the results you get. Be a winner and you will win. Always have the mental state that things will work out.

Some more personal suggestions:
- Meditate, it relaxes the mind and also develops that feeling of detachment, which can be helpful from detaching emotionally on what other people say.
- Kratom. Kratom is a legal herbal drug, which helps you to stay concentrated and motivates you to do work. You mentioned that you can't complete anything you start, so I'm guessing you fall of track. I do a lot too and drink Kratom to help me.
- Acupuncture. Chinese traditional medicine helps you become relaxed and happy.
- Read some self help books. Never eat alone and Psycho - Cybernetics are my favorite. You can also read some material on pick up for meeting girls and making friends with girls. It's pretty good stuff and improves your social skills. I suggest Magic Bullets, The Game and Unstoppable Confidence tapes.

Anyways, I went on for a while. Happy travels and remember, there are no limits, just obstacles. Turn those obstacles into your opportunities.



Talk to a trusted adult (a counselor, school admin., ETC.) if they provide no help, try stabilizing yourself throughout the day. Take a moment and just breath to get rid of your anger or sadness. Its normal to have these emotions, and a lot of people like to be alone. Just try to control how you react to things by steadying yourself kay?



What I would do, is try to connect with a youth worker/ theripist. and talk it out or at least call the kids help phone (if your a Canadain) good luck and take care :)




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