Should I take this apartment or look for a new one?!


Question: Should I take this apartment or look for a new one?
Ok, my brother is incredibly abusive, emotionally, verbally, and sometimes physically. My mom came to stay with us to kind of calm him down, but she's leaving pretty soon in about 5 weeks. I finally found an apartment to move to after 2 months of searching, but it's on my brother's street although a bit further down. It's also close to where his girlfriend lives and she can be very abusive as well. So should I keep looking for more apartments or should I just take this one? I'm afraid that because it's taken me this long to find this apartment, I won't be able to find another one in 5 weeks, and there is no way I can be here alone with him, once my mother leaves. What do I do? Thanks.

Answers:

i dont see why you shouldn't take the apartment. You can lock your doors and always call the cops if they scare you too much :) or file a restraining order as well. But if they are abusive then you should get out of there. It'd be a step up if you moved into any other place even if it's close you won't be in the same house structure as they are. They can't be around you unless you unlock your door and give them permission to come inside. And at that point it is your property as you're renting it out so if they go into your place with out your consent then they are trespassing and can get into trouble for that if you want them too.



You should look for another place to live away from this abusive setting. Ask for help- I know it's hard to admit that you need assistance from others, but see if you can live with your mother or another person- while you search for another place (that would solve your problem of not being able to find another place in only 5 weeks.

Get out of the abusive environment and into someplace safer, the sooner the better.



Move, change your name and appearance, try to do an accent, never go near your brother again, I did this once, until he started to miss me, so I told him where I live, and why I moved and broke contact with him, he apologized and now we are friends.

I don't know your brother, and don't know if this might work, but it did for me.

Personal experience



Take it friend. Live in there as short as you can for a lease while finding a further one while you're in there. Atleast you got a safe private place. Dont forget to get some locks. Dont let them in.

This suggestion if you cant take it for another day. I know how it feels to stay with one.



Why would you want to be anywhere near this situation? Put as much distance as possible between you and your brother and his acquaintances.



Take it! You need to watch out for yourself. Keep an eye out for some other ones but this is good at least for now. Good luck! :)




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