How can i stop cutting?!


Question: How can i stop cutting?
I know i've asked this question before. But all the advice people gave me didn't work. my mom has just recently found out about my cutting, i've told her the truth that i started when i was 11, and have never stopped. The first thing she said was that i needed some help. She cut me off from my friends and email, internet etc. I just gotten back the privilege after having to sign a no-cutting contract with therapists i have to go to. I try to tell my feelings to these therapists, but it never helps. I still feel like cutting, its been 4 months since the last time i cut, i still have urges though, can somebody help me? i really want to stop doing this.

and please don't just say im looking for attention and so on, im not, im truly asking for help.

Answers:

I know it's hard. If I told you I knew how you felt, then I'd be lying. But It's pretty much like eating disorders. You release your emotions through it. You NEED to recover from this. Believe me, I'm struggling with bulimia. I eat until I get stuffed, then all the anxiety comes, and I have the biggest urge to puke. But why binge in the first place? - because of the pain inside, because of the stress. Because of our bad past and our low self esteem.

You need to find it in you, you need to believe in yourself, and if you feel like crying, then hell with it, CRY! I seriously cried for HOURS yesterday, and the day before that I cried for hours too. I sat here, crying, asking the same questions, layed on my bed, listened to some more sad music, talked with my stuffed animal. And kept crying and hugging them. Today, I feel GREAT. I honestly believe that this is what you need to do. Whenever you feel like cutting, then cry, punch a pillow, scream, draw on a paper, even draw people cutting them selves. Because there are plenty of ways to express your emotions, but by cutting yourself for feeling something that in your brain seems to be negative and adding to the negative things about yourself, well that makes you feel even more worthless and then you cut yourself.

Admit you have a problem
Make a promise to yourself that you WILL stop
Find somebody to share your emotions with, talk with them, find support from them.
Find another way to express your feelings.
Listen to songs that have empathy, they help you cry.

I speak truly when I say. "You have to find dirt before you find water"

Sure, the crying part sucks, the urges come and go more. But you have the strength inside of YOU to stop this!

Know that you have all of my support, and somebody in this world CARES!
I care about you very much, and I believe in you, the fact that you've managed to stay away from it for 4 months is amazing! see you can do it. Cutting is no way to live, cutting is BAD. Write it down somewhere and say it to yourself.

I wish you the best luck, don't give up because the good days are just around the corner. Life will become much better soon! xx

/Miranda



Please contact me via email through here and I will give u my direct email addy..I'm older, my son is 18 and believe me, whatever you have been through, I have been through worse and think I could help. I hate to see young kids hurt, I'm a a mother to just one, but try to help kids as much as I can because I grew up with chit that would give you nightmares and if I can help anyone along the way..I feel like I've not only survived hell on earth, but something positive came from it..God Bless, Julia



My sister had the same thing going on. but i dont think its okay that she took away all of ur contacts. Try to find something to take your mind of the urges. like, writing, drawing, videogames, being with good friends, things like that. if you need anything contact me. im happy to help you. :)

-Sammi

Myself



Try and channel your compulsions into something else. Like cutting a piece of wood, or something.



Just dont do it



Think of all the friends and family member that care about u and do it for them



I honestly don't believe you are just "looking for attention". That is not what is considered part of the "cutting" problem. In therapy, we generally try to get the patient to verbalize their feelings about a lot of different things. It can be very difficult with some patients to get them to open up and be honest. The ones that are honest and feel comfortable enough to share their true feelings are the ones that are most successful in treatment. You may need a different therapist or you may need to re-examine the effort that you are putting in to your treatment.
Also, since you have internet access, research the subject and learn as much as you can about it. It may give you some insight about things you would want to mention at your next session. Best wishes



Start by being aware of which situations are likely to trigger your urge to cut. Make a commitment that this time you will not follow the urge, but will do something else instead.

Then make a plan for what you will do instead of cutting when you feel this urge.

Like all urges, the urge to cut will pass if you wait it out. Distracting yourself with something else helps time go by and gets your mind off the urge to cut. The more you wait out the urge without giving in, the more your urges will decrease over time.

Here are some things you can try while waiting for a cutting urge to pass:

* call a friend and talk about something completely different
* take a shower (make sure you don't have razors in the shower)
* go for a walk or run, take a bike ride, dance like crazy, or get some other form of exercise
* play with a pet
* watch TV (change the channel if the show gets upsetting or features cutting)
* drink a glass of water
* compose songs or poetry to express what you're feeling
* listen to music that talks about how you feel
* call a friend
* play with a pet
* make a cup of tea, some warm milk, or cocoa
* try some yoga exercises that help you feel grounded, such as triangle pose
* try a breathing exercise like the one in the button above
* curl up on your bed in a soft, cozy blanket
Or inteade of that stuff and want the cutting sensation follow this::
* rub an ice cube on your skin instead of cutting it
* wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap it gently against your skin
* draw on the skin with a soft-tipped red pen in the place you might usually cut

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/pro…




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