I need to know if its me? Do I need a Psychiatrist?!


Question: I need to know if its me? Do I need a Psychiatrist?
Ok Ill start off by saying that I just married this guy about two months ago and me and him are having a baby in july. Im starting to regret ever meeting him and getting pregnant. I already have a daughter that's 17 mo old and her father isn't around but he is so she calls him daddy. So I kind of lean close to her because I never grew up with a father either just a bunch of step dads. My mother is a psychiatrist and everyone thinks she is nice and knows everything. behind closed doors my mom is a emotionally abusive person. she even talks about her clients and complains about her job 24/7! My mother is always putting me down and influencing my older brother and sister to do the same. I am like there verb all punchbag. Recently my husband had to go to court for driving without a license and the place was out of town so we asked her could she take us because he could have been going to jail. She implied I have to check schedule and said my step father would tag along because he wanted to go site seeing at the location. so I asked the step father since he wanted to site see could he put half on gas. (reasonable right) its our car. and my mom flipped out on me calling me all types of stupid, dirty, nasty, inconsiderate bitches. Im so use to her doing it Ididn'tt reactt I just left. She said he tried to go for emotional support butdoesn'ttt even emotionally support her is one of those kids in a adult body. He says inappropriatee things at the wrong time. I didn'tt want him to go anyway because if my husband went to jail he would have said something like "well time to look for a new bf lol"! Any whoo we went to court and he had to pay some bail money. So we decided with the rest of the money we would buy a phone and tell his mom first thing in the morning. Little did we know my mom called his mother (there first time talking ever!!) and she was telling his mom how dumb I was and stupid and I never finished college and basically putting me down to the point where his mom said "she never wanted to speak to her again because she really had a problem with me deep inside." So my husband insisted i did nt talk to her til she apologized and so 3monthss went by without us talking and my sister came in from chicago and wanted to take my daughter out shopping..come to find out she took her to my moms house because my mom has been missing her. my mom could have told me that and apologizedd to me first before plotting to have my sister to take my child over er house, when they put me down verbally in front of my daughter, right? So I got so angry and went to my mothers and told my sister to bring her to me and my sister turned her phone off and ignored my calls. I called everyone in the house and they ignored my calls andwouldn'tt give me back my daughter, they said I was over reacting but Ididn'tt want her there knowing me and my mom were in the situation we were in. SO my husband went inside and they were telling him he was dumb for marrying me and he would see later in life. Telling him he felt sorry for him and I was gonna suffer in life, blah blah. So we get home and he yells at me for letting her go with my sister.


Lately my husband has been turning into my mom in my eyes. He is constantly calling me stupid and dumb and slamming doors around the house. Its like im walking on eggshells to do everything right. I am so stressed out. I am 25 weeks pregnant and hedoesn'tt rub my back or belly but he want to have sex all the time and I refuse because of me being so big and sore from taking care of my 17 mo old without any of his help! He syas is becaasue he works and he is to tired to come home and help, but he works at a car wash that barely gets 5 customers a day. so everydayy lately he has been watching porn for 2 hours.Its like I have none of my family and my husband has been putting me down every chance he gets so I have noone to talk to..he ran all my friends away from when i moved in with him last year. So my friends are all with their families. I just feel so alone and I need to know if its just me or do I need mental help to stop me from becoming depressed.

Answers:

You're whole family sounds awful, I feel so sorry for you. It sounds like it's them that need psychiatric help, not you! I don't think you need a psychiatrist, I think you need to see a counsellor to talk through everything that's going on & help you come to a decision as to where you want to be in your life. Your husband sounds like a waste of space & if it were me, I'd definitely leave him. That is just my opinion obviously & I know it's not going to be as as easy as just packing up & going, you've got a child plus one on the way that need considering. By the sound of it though, it's not like you get support financially or emotionally from him so maybe you would be better getting rid? I'd also urge you to get back in contact with at least one of your old friends, you need a shoulder right now. I was in an abusive relationship a few years ago where he drove all my friends away & when I finally saw sense & left him, I had a few bridges to build with people I'd lost touch with but I did get my friends & life back in the end. You need to think about what's best for you & your kids, to hell with the rest of them! I'll be thinking of you, hope this helps. Xx



You should consult a psychiatrist, under the present circumstances.

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That sounds like a super dysfunctional arrangement, and it isn't one that anybody could attempt to unpick on here, it just wouldn't do you justice. i don't think you need a psychiatrist, you don't come across as mentally unwell. I do think you need a therapist though. Firtly, go and see your doctor and find out if there is anything they can offer you. And then look for a therapist.




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