Do You Ever Really Overcome Rape?!


Question: Do You Ever Really Overcome Rape?
Life hasn't been good to me. I grew up with abusive parents (verbally and physically) and I was never allowed to go out, have a girlfriend or have friends. Like the last time I saw a movie in theaters was 11 years ago on a school field trip, they wouldn't let me go out normally anywhere. Then to top it off I was raped when I was 11 by a male stranger, I'm also a guy so you can imagine what happened and how violent it was, so that really F'ed me up for good. Anyway, I'm 19 now and I live by myself and I think I've overcome most of the mental stress but I can't help but feeling damaged, or defective. I don't know if anyone would want me and I feel so jealous and envy of people who've lived normal happy lives. Like I read questions here all the time by 14-15yo kids about their first kiss or 16-17yo's their planning on losing their virginity to each other it's all sounds so cute, it makes me feel empty on the inside. I never had a meaningful first time and I never got to experience that "kiddy love" and never will:( Is this something you can really get over or do you carry the burden with you for the rest of your sad, wretched life?

Answers:

You never get over rape you realize it was one event in your life. You come to understand that not everyone is psycho and you start learning to trust again. Start small with just a friend or two, then ask someone out, you'll get turned down sometimes but you'll get the date sometimes also. Find a support group for rape victims in your area they are great. Go places to find people your age movies, mall, fast food shop and/or church. You don't have to tell anyone anything. There are a lot of things people don't know about each other. But if you find someone to care for please let them know, this is info they would fee lright in knowing and they will be sensitive to your needs. There is a great life out there don't let anyone take it from you it's your right and you deserve it. Fight for your right to move on and do great things. It's a big world out there and you'll love it!



talk to a psychiatrist. maybe a group that helps rape victims? you sound like a sweet and intelligent guy and i'm so sorry that this happened to you. Keep your chin up as best as you can. You WILL find someone who loves you and it's only a matter of waiting to find that person who will probably be the person you marry.
Good luck with everything <3



I feel the same way about youth. But I wasn't raped. And my parent's are cool. What does that mean? Don't diagnose yourself.

I'm sorry you never had a "meaningful" first time. Welcome to adulthood.



when i was 7 or 8 years old,there was this girl who i really loved and we used to walk to school together every morning while holding hands.its really sweet but when i was 9 we have to move so i left her..it felt terrible,wasting your years without the girl you care so much..but the worse part is i totally forgotten her name and i hardly recognize her....then i decided to move on.and i felt better,..i' m 14 and i' m also a guy and i really do understand your situation because i was never allowed to go out of the house or have fun.it is very easy to move on if you really want to,just think of your good times...good luck i wish i helped....




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