Can someone help me settle my mind?!


Question: Can someone help me settle my mind?
Everything i do isn't good enough. I mean financially speaking pretty much. I'm a single mom and 10 years ago I really had it figured out. I struggle every day and live in survival mode. I hate survival mode. There's never any vacations, never a nice house that we will live in, never enough money at the end of the month. Don't get me wrong. I work hard every day. I sit and think about what I can do to put food on the table and buy my kids games and what they need and then I go out and try to make it. (I'm self employed) Anyway, I know that God is with me. However, I just miss that relief feeling that you have when you know that the bills will get paid on time and everything's ok feeling. Its scary in that regard. I feel like I live a nightmare. Is there any other way to look at this. I know that my kids and I are healthy but not knowing if your going to get the rent paid or car paid is always in my mind and I can't seem to concentrate on anything else. Please help me, Thanks!

Answers:

Your life sounds a bit of a nightmare right now and you sound isolated. I'm glad that you have God for support. What about wider family, parents etc or even friends, especially at church? Do people know what a struggle you are having?

Being responsible for your kids all alone is tough. Does the father pay towards their upkeep? His family even, grandparents?

Maybe one day you'll meet a new man who will come into your life and change things! Maybe you don't want that though. Still, kids grow up and move into independence and then you will have less of a struggle with money just earning for yourself. The kids may end up in great jobs able to support you one day. I expect thats too far away to be much comfort now.

You just never know what's round the next corner and I hope that things change for you soon. As far as kids are concerned they just need to know you are there and love them and support them. That's enough. Your doing a great job of looking after them and you didn't just put your feet up and ask the state to pay the bills. I'm impressed!

Good luck



First of all, do you know, there is no one, trust me, no one in the world who is not thinking like you. Who is not struggling from his/her own position. If you find just one exception, she/he is mentally sick!

Well, still the room for a little better living is always there. You said, you are self employed, I do not know what do you do. If you are doing it for long time, you should know more, then find some weak spot, and think what can you do to improve it. For example, if you make website. You get 2 jobs a month from the local market. Think why don't you get more jobs? Do not try to invest more at the first place. Try to utilize what you have, do not wait for things that you do not have! So, from my imaginary example, initially, ask all your old customer, tell them, you need more order, if they recommend some clients to you. If they don't agree, ask them what did they expect from your website design what what is missing. So, offer them an improvement. Do not offer money! This way, you can ask other people in your profession to make website for you, and you slowly work as a contractor of others...divide your extra profit with the shareholder, don't be greedy, and think, think again, think again, and act without any hesitation!

I wish you all the best!



there are ways.there are more millions of people like you in this world.there are worse people too.you think you are the only mother that will see children's needs and can 't satisfy?no ...there are parents everywhere who even can't feed there children ,you can think about how they feel when they even can't give food?nothing at all.

and you may think that you won't get enough money for your H..AA...rrrdd work....but do you know that there are people who do a lot more work than you ONLY for FOOD??

compare your self with the world and you live happier than ever because god have given you the best life :)

think like this and you will never go down emotionally




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