How do you improve your quality of life?!
Question: How do you improve your quality of life?
I am working on my quality of life. I have a few goals in mind. To name a few I would like to eat healthier food, lose 30 lbs, travel, go out more with friends, and feel ok with being alone. I know it’s possible. It’s just a matter of time.
The problem is the city I live in is very small. There is nothing to do here but the mall, theater and a few restaurants. If you want to have fun you have to travel an hr to an hr and a half to Los Angeles. That can get expensive with gas and what good is it to go alone. I do not have many friends and the ones I do have cannot do things with me all the time because they have their own lives, kids, boyfriends or girlfriends. Some weekends I am alone. I don’t know what to do on these weekends.
I go to the gym but even that is depressing to do cuz when I arrive on the weekends it’s empty and I feel like such a loser for being at the gym ON A WEEKEND when EVERYONE else is out doing something.
I want to be happy. What things can I do? What needs to happen for me to be happy with myself so that everything else can fall into place on its own?
Also, I just quit school. I have so much stress. I plan on returning but I need a break right now. Also, I hate my job. It really depresses me and has me so unhappy. There are no jobs in this city.
Just be happy with yourself. I think I had that most wonderful moments when I was single. I would take the bus downtown and go to a store or sit at the park and read. It felt great having a clear mind and not having to account to anyone but myself. Freedom, I guess you could say. I knew that those moments I had alone were moments for me to understand and explore what I really wanted. That time in my life, was right after I dropped out of college. A four year college that I was so desperate to get into and decided that I really didn't want to go to anymore. I had worked so hard to get into it too. I was the first person in my family to go to college. So, I lived away from my family for a year and worked part time while going to city college (taking like 2 classes). It felt really good. Like I wasn't fitting into some pre-determined puzzle piece. I decided I was going to do finger painting instead! lol. Just think of this time as your chance to get to know you and find out about yourself. People think they do but, if that were true, there wouldn't be so much depression, divorce, and uncertainty in the world. I met my fiance soon after my year alone and I dont have any time alone now. We just took off together and I now sort of live like I'm married. I dont hate it but I understand now how important that year was for me. Once we are married and have kids, kiss my artistic searching good bye. Think of the days in life as stepping stones. You make the surroundings whatever you want them to be, but the stones are there. As far as work, a stepping stone to what you want to do the most some day but start thinking about what that is. Make plans and set goals. Not like this is what I want to be when I grow up, heck, make it a trip to Italy, but something. Something fun you can do and work towards.
Happiness is just a state of mind. Material things can only bring temporary happiness to you, so as your boyfriend. If you can't change the situation, change yourself.
Getting back into school would be a good place to start. Myself I try to learn @ least 1 new thing everyday and I could care less about what the subject is.
Having the gum to yourself is awesome. Start with that first :)
I always gobyo the gym
I am totally agreed with your first paragraph.,