Suicide help?!

Suicide help?

my brother has had a pretty rough life, and now lives with his girlfriend and her 3 year old son and their newborn daughter....but he has a serious drinking problem and gets really violent whenever he's drunk (which is 3 or 4 times a week) and beats-up his girlfriend in front of the kids. I told her she should throw him out, but he literally has nowhere to go and would be on the streets.....no hostels will take him anymore. But then she told me that he told her he thinks he's having a break-down and he was crying and he'd tried to hang himself from the stair banister with a rope......I don't know what to do, but I feel so helpless.

If they carry on, one of them is going to end up dead....im so worried :-(

2 days ago
he wouldn't accept professional help, because he would never be able to admit he's got a problem....this has been going on for 8 years now and it seems to be getting worse, also I've had a big argument with him recently and he wouldn't talk to me.....(and would probably beat-up his girlfriend if he knew she'd told me)

I’m so sorry for your feeling of helplessness. I wish that I had the correct words to make all your worries go away!! Your brother and his girlfriend are very fortunate to have someone care as you do!

Yes, she does need to get away from his violent temper!!! Not only will this have detrimental repercussions on her, but ALSO the CHILDREN!!! He DEFINITELY needs psychological help IMMEDIATELY.

You are correct, someone is going to be injured in this situation. This is why the families/friends need to step forward and intervene with support. Alcoholism is a disease and alcohol is a depressant. NOT A GOOD COMBINATION! BUT, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink”.

What I don’t understand, is why she has not called the police regarding the beatings. If the law intervened, that opens a gateway of hope for help them! Your brother’s girlfriend needs to STOP and THINK of her children’s well-being, and your brother definitely needs psychological help before it’s too late. By her reporting the physical abuse, she will in the long run be helping him. Though it sure may not feel like it at that time. This is a serious problem all around, that needs serious help.

As far as where he would live if she threw him out . . . Aren’t there any homeless shelters in your area? Depending on the facility, he would receive help for his illness.

His girlfriend is putting her children in danger. If Child Protective Services would learn of the physical abuse (even though it’s not being done to them) they could VERY WELL remove them from her custody.

This is a sad and bad situation no matter how you look at it. SOMEONE needs to step up to the plate and intervene ASAP. It appears to me, that this person is his girlfriend. She should have called the police when he tried to hang himself, and called them when he has beaten her. She probably feels that if she does that she is betraying him . . . BUT SHE IS NOT, SHE IS SAVING HIS, HER’S OR THEIR CHILDREN’S LIVES!!!

Unfortunately YOU cannot control this situation and you should NOT feel that all the burden of repairing it falls on you! I hope that my advise has given you even just the slightest help. My thoughts are with you, your brother and his girlfriend and children.