If you've ever used a switch, stick, paddle, belt, or any object when hitting yo!


Question:

If you've ever used a switch, stick, paddle, belt, or any object when hitting your child, wasn't it abuse?


Answers:

It depends on why you use those things to instill contempt for inappropriate behavior. If you're just hitting your kid because you had a bad day at work, or something like that, you need to rethink what is going through your mind when you use those disciplinary tools. If you're not using them for the correct reasons, then you are at least abusing your power as a parent / child guardian.

My rule of thumb is don't leave any permanent physical scars. The whole concept is to convey the seriousness of inappropriate actions. You may be saving them from doing something serious in the future that would cause them a lot of pain or even death. Abdicating your responsibility to properly and sternly correct them, makes you in some way responsible for whatever they may do in the future that could get them hurt or make them very unhappy when your forthright correction could have prevented that.

My grandmother caught my uncle playing with matches when he was a kid. Her response was to hold his little hands to a flame and burn all of his fingers. That was unequivocally child abuse, but he should have been punished in a stern but less harsh way.

Oh, and you Zealots out there who would turn her in to the police---she's been dead for years; however, I wish she had had to face the law for what she did when she was still living.




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