Any sexual abuse victims here been in therapy?!

Any sexual abuse victims here been in therapy?

I would like to hear from those that have been in therapy and worked out their past sexual abuse, or if you are a therapist that works with sexual abuse victims.

Did you find it helpful? How long were you in therapy for?

I have improved on my own and with time, and thought I would be okay, but I'm not. Right now, I feel wreckless, angry, depressed and mildly as if I want to die.

I stopped having casual sex or being sexually provacative (a symptom of sexual abuse) a long time ago, but I'm finding it hard to feel connected in long term relationships and I find it hard to fall in love or to truly like someone. Sometimes I still feel like I'm the old me soooo obsessed with sex and can't see past through sex. Some people even tell me that I will definitely cheat in relationships in the future, even though I never have.

Will a therapist be able to help me with these issues? I feel like I'm only good for sex, working and studying.

3 days ago
fyi, it's a lot easier to say that you won't do a certain thing instead of actually doing it.

i haven't done casual sex or hook-ups anymore, but sometimes i get the urge. it's like a high you get when you're feeling upset, and that bad feeling goes away........

3 days ago
players---I read that it takes 2-5 years to fully heal.

Because I keep getting trapped in a cycle and don't want to stay this way all my life..I'm debating that I should go see a therapist that specializes in sexual abuse.

I was abused during my childhood and ended up going through therapy when I was in my thirties. It can be very helpful to go through therapy for past sexual abuse issues, but just keep in mind that not all therapists may be right for you.

First of all, if you decide to do this, make sure the therapist has experience in working with past trauma issues. You can ask for a referral or you can call around and ask the different therapists about their qualifications. Also, even if the therapist is good and has a lot of experience, they may not be the right one for you. So if it doesn't feel right after about a month, then try seeing a different one.

Another thing is that sometimes people will have a hard time working with a therapist who is the same sex as their past abuser. For me, I had a lot better experience when I worked with a female therapist because my abusers were male.

It's very common for people who've been sexually abused to fall into the destructive patterns that you mentioned, so don't let people who don't know what they're talking about put you down. It's good that you recognize these patterns but now it sounds like you need some guidance to learn a healthier way to live and to improve your sense of self-worth. Therapy can help but it can also take a lot of work and be emotionally painful at times. For me, it was worth it. And by the way, it took about 3 years but it was one of the best investments of time I ever made.