How does someone grieve? What did it take for you to learn to live with death o!


Question:

How does someone grieve? What did it take for you to learn to live with death of a loved one???

I recently lost my mom.


Answers:

Oh, I'm so sorry. That's a tough one. I lost my dad and my soul mate, so I understand what grief is, and how you feel.

griefnet.org can direct you to groups and counselors who specialize in grief. There are many good books you can take out of the library, as well.

Don't withdraw. See your friends, you go to their houses, have them come to yours. Find things to laugh about. Those things will help a lot.

Keep only a few of her things. I kept everything of my dad's for several years. Most of them were destroyed by a flood. That's when I found out that those things weren't needed for me to remember or cherish my dad. They were holding me back from my growth. After his things had to be junked, I came to realize my memories of him were golden, unchanged by the loss, perhaps even improved by the loss. The change lifted my heart.

Grief comes and goes -like the tides in the ocean. Let them be what they are, but don't wallow in the pain. Know, too, that your mom would not be happy if you are unhappy. So it is important that you return to happiness, and treasure the wonderful memories.
You may email me if you want to talk, ask questions, or just say what you're feeling.




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