Anyone here who has lived with a sufferer of a personality disorder of any kind?!

Anyone here who has lived with a sufferer of a personality disorder of any kind?

Okay, this is a second attempt for a question I asked yesterday. It seems that no one on Answers has ever had experience with someone who has Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD). So here is my question again, with a broader base for responses:

Please share your experiences of living with a family member who suffers from a personality disorder (of any kind). How have your experiences affected your personal development? Have you ever had to go through counseling in order to resolve traumas associated with this person? What kinds of things did you do to protect yourself once you realized that this person was a toxic influence? Were you ever able to successfully convince this person that he/she had a problem and should seek counseling?

*Please note that I'm not asking for advice about how to deal with sufferers of personality disorders. I'm just interested in hearing any of your stories. Thanks!

My MIL suffers from what my husband, my therapist, and I believe to be NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder.)

She has very strong traits. She is unable to recognize or admit her wrong doings, she manipulates and later denies, she will lie straight to our faces and attempt to rewrite history. She lives in a world of denial. She doesn't respect our boundaries or wishes; it doesn't matter what we ask of her she will do the exact opposite. She cannot even control her rotten behavior even when it is to her own detriment.

We cut her out of our lives for several months now. We recently suggested attending family counseling together.

We are waiting on her response, and I have a feeling she will attend, as she, herself is a psychologist, and how can she deny that people sometimes just need therapy.

This has been hard on both my husband and I, as she has made our life literally hell over the past 6 years. She is very passive-aggressive, and you can't help but question her every move and what her motives are. She always has a hidden agenda.

The recovery rate with NPD is less than 1%--while I am not optomistic that she will reach recovery; I am hopeful that a therapist (being a neutral outside party,) can help her understand that she must respect our boundaries.

Basically, we are forced to treat her like a 2 year old. We have to punish her and let her know what the consequences are for her actions--And, I am talking about a grown, married, psychologist.