Has anyone ever dealt with the suicide of an ex-significant other?!

Has anyone ever dealt with the suicide of an ex-significant other?

My ex-boyfriend has had a troubled past and I dated him for about 6 or 7 months. He tried to kill himself once several years ago, but instead injured himself badly. He has been slowly going down hill. I've already gotten him to talk to professionals, to friends and family and anyone else I can think of. I have taken suicide awareness classes before, I just don't know what else I can do. I literally have had everyone contact him that I can think of, but I think he might do it. The catch is that I really don't want to be around him because I have known of (in my hometown....far away from here) of two girls who got killed by their ex's before their ex's commited suicide. I'm not really worried about my safety as long as I stay away from him, but I'm still worried that there is nothing I can do to keep him from doing this. He has a son who he just sent to live with him Mom in another state and I am also worried about how this will affect his son. (more coming)

5 days ago
I have told him that at the very least he needs to think of his son, but he keeps saying that his son would be better off with him (my ex) gone completely. He has been getting rid of everything he owns. Is it possible that I've just reached a point where there is nothing I can do and I have to sit back and let it happen? I just can't fathom feeling that depressed that I feel life is no longer worth living.

5 days ago
fa q: I hope you remember your answer every time you see someone on the news who was killed by their ex before their ex killed themselves.

Been there, done that (unfortunately). My ex-husband (first husband) killed himself four years ago, after years of mental illness and the associated "issues".

From what you describe, you've already done everything humanly possible.

It's obvious that he's on a path, on a road that *you're* not interested in traveling. Murder/suicide is very common in mental illness cases (like this one seems to be)... and you're VERY smart in staying away from him. Good call.

The one thing that really "jumped out at me" in your description was the fact that he sent away his son. Actually, in the long run, he probably will have done the boy a FAVOR... the child would be MUCH more scarred by finding his dad's body post-suicide. If the boy is with his grandmother, at least he'll be shielded from THAT... and as for the fallout, I hope grandmother gets the boy into therapy. That will help the boy in the long run.

One of the few "guarantees" we have in this life is FREE WILL. NOBODY can stop him if he does make the decision to take his life - NOBODY. And YOU have done EVERYTHING in your power - heck, you've gone above and BEYOND!

Please console yourself with the knowledge that your intentions were good, even if they didn't "save" him from himself... YOU TRIED. There honestly isn't anything else YOU can do. It's between him and God now.

Feel free to contact me if you'd like to talk more, like I said this is a road that can be very lonely if there's no communication.

Take care of yourself - and be good to yourself.
Harleygirl