Angry Or Bitter? Or What?!
Question:
Angry Or Bitter? Or What?
Okay so things havent been so great the past two years. I lost my family because I moved to live with my fiance, twice he's left me homeless and now emotionally abuses me even out of the relationship, he can't help but control me even when I'm not with him. I've had to surrender my dog because no one can help me house her, she used to live with me n the fiance.
The issue is with every thing that goes wrong like this, I don't know. I feel angry and sad. but it makes me feel more... Well... Like I don't want to follow the rules anynmore, it makes me hate people that don't deserve my hate because I associate them with whats happened. Am I just a loon or is this a normal reaction... What is this I'm going through???? It just seems that everything I love gets taken from me, and that I'm not allowed to have things or be happy like everyone else??
Answers:
hey sammy, the only thing that you can control is you. you can not control people, places or things. you need acceptance in order to move on. when your disturbed, its becuase you find something unacceptable to you. whether that be a person, or a situation. nothing , absolutly nothing, happens in this world by mistake. your addictions, problems, baggage...will never go away until you accept the fact that you are in control of you and you control your destiny. you cannot stay pain free unless you accept life completly on lifes terms and you cannot be happy until that happens.
you need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in your attitude. I am in control of ME. thats what you should be chanting....do you think anyone cares whats going on with you? do you possibly think that there is someone that is waiting to rescue you? not even the nicest guy can do that for you.....everyone helps someone for a reward of sorts....my reward here in helping you? I was where you are.......:(
the only thing that helps people are people themselves.....
get a job.....get a home......get a life. bottom line. NO person is your savior....get away from that person completly and start living your life as YOU deserve. YOU are important and YOU count.
xo