Anger outbursts, am I over reacting?!
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Anger outbursts, am I over reacting?
My guy has outbursts of anger & yelling. He has very little patience,if things aren't happening when he thinks they should he gets frustrated & loses it Right now he's under a lot of stress (single parent, lost his job) & it's gotten worse.He's not yelling at me,I just have to hear it.He's never hurt me physically, when he starts the yelling I just want to cover my ears & curl up in the fetal position.When I was married, my husband was physically,mentally & emotionally abusive to me.What always preceeded the physical abuse was the yelling.I think that my brain is going into auto-pilot & I shut down.I don't have control over it & he can't understand my reactions,he says he's not my ex & would never hurt me.Am I over reacting? I know he needs to learn how to control his anger or at the very least get his yelling out of his system when I'm not around.Is there anyway that I can change the way I react to the yelling? When anyone starts yelling around me in anger, I have the same reaction.
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If he cannot understand and calm his temper you need to RUN away from this relationship. Remember when you are dating he is on his best behavior. JMO