There is something wrong with me and i dont know what it is.?!


Question:

There is something wrong with me and i dont know what it is.?

i was with my girlfriend yesterday and we were swimming in her dads in ground pool. we were playing with a volleyball and i also had a half size basketball in my hand. i started to swim to the other side of the pool and my gf threw the ball at me and hit me in the head. no big deal normally but for some reason i lashed out and threw the basketball at her and hit her in the face. i am normally very calm and collected and if something dumb happens to me like that, i usually just shrug it off and say "whatever, it was an accident." but for some reason i just reacted with anger and i dont know why. i felt really bad and i apologized up a storm and tonite im gonna get her flowers and take her to dinner but i still dont know why i did that. i have been with her for 3 years and never ever wanted to hit her or another woman in my life. i also used to drink heavily and recently stopped about 3 weeks ago and lately i have just been mad about lil stuff that would normally never bother me.

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1 week ago
i also have been having weird dreams lately like i have been fighting sopmething and i always end up getting killed or my buddy gets killed. can anyone offer advice?


Answers:

Nothing really wrong with you. It is perhaps all the pent up frustration of the little things snowballing on you since you've quit drinking. Unfortunately your girlfriend was the 'last straw' when she threw that ball at you.

I do not know the reason why you've quit drinking but it is good you are not drinking HEAVILY any more--not sure what your definition of heavy is there though. Sometimes folks need a drink just to unwind but unfortunately some folks don't know when to quit sometimes and overdo it. Never let alcohol control you. You should control the consumption of it. Please do note I'm not saying you should start drinking again either nor am I criticizing you. Some folks use to try drinking their problems away but unfortunately the problems just don't get resolved and will some day come back and bite you in the a** (been there done that)

I think you need to isolate all those little nagging stuff and DEAL with ONE little thing at a time and resolve it somehow. Solve the frustrations one little piece at a time. Ask yourself:

"How important is this stuff to my life?"--if it not important for work, survival, or involving your family, let it be until you can think of a solution calmly (trying to solve everything at once just gets you more frustrated)
"Who is the person in my life?"--if it is no one you know, then it ain't worth a hill of beans (not even what I am typing here, if you don't like it)

I can go on and on but I won't. Somethings in life happen for a reason, some don't. We all have to learn to see it for what it is and figure out where it fits in your life--important? somewhat important? or not at all?

Take care.




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