I am not happy with life, but don't know how to fix it. Anyone else going throu!

I am not happy with life, but don't know how to fix it. Anyone else going through this? Sad all the time!

I wrote a similar question earlier and people suggested things I have already tried. I've been to three therapists. I've been on drugs, off drugs, exercising, going out, being with friends, mastering the ability to act as though everything is fine....

I have talked to my friends & family and they just don't understand what is wrong with me.

I even have had three long term relationships, though I've never been able to fully commit because I am afraid to take my unhappiness into it. I pretend I am not to most people. My fiance knows I have a problem, but everyone seems to just think a person can snap out of this. I've not been able to snap out - it goes on and on and I am completely miserable. The drugs do not work and I've tried three different kinds. I'm just sad. Does anyone else have any experience with this?

Oh - and God doesn't cut it for me. Before you go on saying that jesus is my answer, he isn't. I can't force myself to believe in something I don't.

Hey Catwoman,

First off, congratulations for wanting a 'real answer', and not just some religious placebo!

As a rational person, I am sure you can appreciate a rational approach, so instead of advice, I will give you more questions:

1. Whose job is it to make you happy?
2. What would you gain from deciding to be happy?
3. What do you gain from staying unhappy?

If you can get alone with yourself, write these 3 questions down on a piece of paper, and then spend time ALONE answering them for yourself, I am sure that the answer will come out of your own head.

I believe that there is nothing wrong with you, except you have not made up your mind who you want to be. As long as you do not have that certainty, you will ask others to supply you with answers.

Well, others have tried and failed. I think it is time that you ask yourself. If you want some help with that, feel free to write to me, but with suggestions about your self improvement, not complaints of how others have failed.

Sounds tough, perhaps, but for me, this is not a popularity contest. It is about really learning how to build a life worth living - and I have used this approach myself, although it was 'suggested' through text books.

Write to me through my website, under 'source' if you wish.

Roselle