How do you know who is right in a situation? Everyone, even myself, is messed u!

How do you know who is right in a situation? Everyone, even myself, is messed up. How can I find the truth?

In the last few years I've had a lot of devastating experiences in relationships. People I know are any of the following: narcisstic, bipolar, paranoid, multiple personality, and more. Myself, I'm depressed, co-dependant, suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and anxiety/panic attacks. Out of everybody, I've sought out treatment via therapy and self-help options more. Even hypnosis. I'm trying to come to grips with the pain that has been done to me, and pain that I have caused others. In a lot of situations I've come across as the bad guy, mainly by sticking up for myself. In retrospect I'm thinking, was I really to blame? If I was, I'll own it and try to correct myself, but what if it isn't really me? What if it's others that are wrong? When in situations where everybody is mentally damaged to one extent or another, and a situation heats up, how in the name of Heavens can you tell who is right. (And I don't believe it's whoever keeps their cool the best.) Help! Thanx

1 week ago
My reason for wanting to know who is right is that if I am wrong, I want to correct myself and grow from the situation. If we say "there's no right answer" or "noone is right or wrong" how do we know where we stand regarding emotional stability? I know everything is not black and white. But what has happened because I'm unsure of just who is the nuttiest, is that I've begun isolating myself. I just can't deal with people and situations any more. And then I don't have to think about my question, because it doesn't arise if I don't put myself out there. Actually, I prefer Positive Solitude, and am gravitating towards that more and more. The craziness in relationships just isn't worth the little benefit I derive from them any more.

I think you have to decide what is right and wrong for yourself. I believe it is not our place to decide that for someone else.

In a given confrontational situation, it may also be that no one is "right."

I commend you for the hard work you are doing. Keep asking yourself those questions.