Shy and unable to make friends! what to do?!


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Shy and unable to make friends! what to do?

Im pretty shy outside the restraints of my household, have low-esteem and blah-blah-blah... y'know what i mean. ive been told that im really good with words - on paper.. but don't have the confidence to share them in real life. at school, i have only one friend who im able to spend time with, and she is just as hopeless as me. I can act as outgoing as i like in front of my family, but in social/school situations, im speechless and can't stop thinking about what others think of me and how im being judged. This has been my problem my whole life, and weirdly, has become more prominent as ive grown older(im 16). It might have something to do with maturation, as when you are younger you just play around and dont really think any more of it. But now as im older, you seem to have to expose your feelings and talk things through with others, and ive never developed that ability. I can't help but wish i was someone else sometimes, just so id feel accepted and feel i have friends to turn to.HELP!

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1 week ago
for the people that have said strike up a convo.. its impossible for me! easier said than done for me. i feel i have no common ground with anyone, and to make matters worse.. people at my school are into being sarcastic and cynical and i can't relate to that!!!

1 week ago
i can't talk to anyone - no school counsellors, not even parents... its IMPOSSIBLE

1 week ago
sorry but im very stubborn and have to reply to these answers!! i do put myself in LOTS of people situations.. but im also body-concious and cant even approuch people cos of my acne.. my parents just keep on calling me "the problem child".. they always joke about it but it really hurts.. they say what did we do wrong to give birth to you... etc etc its terrible and they just joke off everything they say to me!


Answers:

I know what you mean. When you have to talk to someone it like your mind freezes into a thoughtless block and there is a pane o glass between you and the other person. You can look but you can't talk to him or her. I kinda got overthis when i just got too damn tired of caring what other people think. I just told myself it just too much damn trouble to keep from screwing up infront of others, tell yourself that you know your going to screwup, and people might think you're weird, but fuc it, its easyier then trying to pretend your something your not.




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