How can I deal with this?!


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How can I deal with this?

My mom and I are constantly fighting. We fight more now than when I was a teenager. The other day she crossed the line. I suffer from depression, and recently I've been worse than ever. For whatever reason I brought up the fact how I was feeling and she had the nerve to tell me "You probably don't really have depression. You're just self absorbed." I was so angry! I couldn't believe she said that to me when she knows very well that I do. She was even the one who suggested to me that I go talk to my doctor when I first started noticing my depressed state wouldn't go away. And she was the one who used to pick up my anti depressants for me. I know someone who doesn't suffer from depression don't understand how hard it is to deal with, but I just couldnd't believe that came out of her mouth. I'm still angry about it. I didn't talk to her the whole day after and I'm still hardly talking to her and keeping my distace. She know's I'm angry but she just has this "whatever" attitude about it.

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1 week ago
Sorry if anything is spelled wrong, I'm in a hurry

1 week ago
Oh and the reason why I brought it up was because we were arguing and she "didn't understand" why I'm always so unhappy

1 week ago
Her hurtful words and constant arguing is a daily thing. I don't understand it. She likes to pick fights, push people's buttons, etc. People have seen us argue because she "likes" to make it public, and those who have witnessed it admitted to me she is obviously the one with the bigger problem

And Honeyface, you're full of crap. A Psychologist would NEVER say get over yourself so don't go claiming you're a health care professional or that you got it from one


Answers:

I'm sorry your mom reacted this way. I'm wondering if she's feeling guilty that her daughter is ill (doesn't want to acknowledge it) or maybe just feels helpless in not knowing how to help you?? There's always something behind a statement like this. I'm very glad for you that you didn't let what she said invalidate your own experience that the diagnosis of depression is accurate for you.

And you're right- for people who don't have first-hand knowledge of depression (either have the illness themselves or have gone through this with a close signicant other) its very hard for them to understand its not something you can just 'snap out of'.

Is your mom usually supportive? If you're constantly fighting now and this is something new, I'm wondering what's going on with her.

If this is how your mom usually is, I'd be distancing myself from her to whatever degree is reasonable for you. You need to surround yourself with people who are supportive of you and who you can be supportive of as well. You're mother's anger and attitude are not your responsibility.

If you've never read "The Dance of Anger"- I'd recommend it also.




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