My mom is too negative?!

My mom is too negative?

and i try to help her gain confidence but she pulls me down... but treating me like poop, should i keep trying to help her, or will she influence me with her negativity?
what do i do?
i have been depressed before.. and it is a horrible feeling... i dont want her to be depressed or to have low self esteem .. but i dont wan it for me either.
what do i do?

Excuse me, but who's the mom here? You are putting way too much energy into "fixing" mom. You are not going to change her, you need to fix you. Do what you need to make you happy.

Mom still has the ability to change if she WANTS to. She will probably have to hit bottom before she opens her eyes and realizes that she needs to get help. But not from her kids, from a professional therapist of her own choosing.

I could spend hours talking to you about this. My mom has very low self esteem, is passive-agressive, and obsessive compulsive. It got worse as she aged. Currently she is in a nursing home with Alzheimers. That's another subject I could go on and on about.

Just love her. When she starts to bring you down, kiss her good-bye and leave. Then go shopping, play golf, or sit and cry. I really do understand and feel for you. Take care of yourself.