Please help me?!

Please help me?

i always get angry quickly.i think i have this problem from my childhood. Might be possesiveness is one of the reason for that.please help me how to control my anger.due to this anger i have lost many relations in my life.

I am with you - and going through the same thing - there is no easy answer. They will try to tell you in anger management, try to rationalize with yourself - count to 10, figure out what the real problem is, give yourself a time out to beat the hell out a pillow...

but personally...

I don't think there is an honest way to control temper without medication to cut the edge off.

Not that I am pro drugs, but marijuana has been working wonders - combined with therapy. But getting to understand your triggers is one thing - being able to control the rage is quite another.

I find therapy and medication together work the best - the key is it is rarely something you can fix on your own. You now realize the problem and sound like you are owning up to it, which is the first step... now it is time for follow through.

Understand that many other's won't understand your rage as well. You need to have a supportive and understanding group around. I mean, it doesn't help to be told - don't let things bother you.... you know? If someone tells you to "not let things bother you" or "just let it go" obviously doesn't understand your emotions! A trained therapist will understand your emotions as well as help you get a handle on them!

Good luck!