Dissociative personality disorder? follow up question...?!
Question:
Dissociative personality disorder? follow up question...?
i really appreciate the answers from zencow especially opesa. You guys have made me feel better. Iam relieved that this kind of disorder can be treated. but how can i get him to go see a doctor?i know hes seeing one but doesnt tell me even the details, hes like secretive? is this normal with conditions like that?i want to help him but i cant.
Also i am worried because hes asking me to forget the guy personality? im afraid to answer for he might stay like that forever, i am so afraid i dont want to answer his questions anymore. what will happen?if i answered will he stay that side of his personality for life?
Answers:
Answering the questions asked by the girl personality will not make him stay that way, nor should you "forget" the guy personality. They are both parts of him and will you will need to relate to both parts in order to maintain a relationship with him. Once integrated, both aspects will be absorbed into the "core" and you will see traits of both reflected in the integrated person. It is important not to "choose sides" (or rather not to choose alters) as it seems they are both vying for your attention. I do not know which part is the core, nor do I know the sexual preference of either part-and yes, they can vary, but I encourage you to maintain your boundaries and do not be persuaded into any action, sexual or otherwise, that is contrary to your nature in order to please your partner. Instead, be honest and direct regarding your feelings and do not be afraid to say "no" to any demands that make you uncomfortable, but don't shut down communication with any part. You must like and relate to both parts in order to maintain an intimate relationship as neither will ever disappear, but you should not compromise yourself in order to do so.
I strongly recommend that you seek therapy yourself if you intend to pursue this relationship, as Yahoo Answers is no substitute. Perhaps by so and sharing your experience your partner will recognize the investment you are making in him and will be persuaded to follow your example. Best of luck to you!