My husband has suffered with dipression for years.?!

My husband has suffered with dipression for years.?

i have lived with him for 13 yrs, i know when he is unwell, even his mother & other people in his family must know they see him nearly everyday too, they just carry on with him as usual, allways asking him do this do that , it aggravates me as he never says no, i think they take advantage of him and his illness at time. some off them dont offer him anything for his help either it hurts me being his wife & he being treated like this, ive told him to go back to drs he said he ok, i know him though its hard living with someone who suffers with dipression, i know what he is going through as i got dipressed a few yrs ago i took pills but weaned myself off them, luckly for me its not come back. dont know what to do any advice out there.

Hi Heather,
I wonder what the cause of depression is for your husband? Depression is a term used to cover a multitude of things, a bit like having a cold, or a virus & about as common. It can knock you down & leave you feeling very low, even disabled, but the causes of depression in different people can be totally opposite. Likewise, what relieves depression can be opposite for different people & even at different stages of the illness.
Maybe he needs to have nothing to do, or maybe he needs a role, or possibly both at different times. It's quite possible that his birth family represents to him a time when he didn't suffer depression, so he might be prepared to be active for them, but unable to do anything for you.
Problem is that most doctors are trained to treat bodies rather than minds. They'll write prescriptions for antidepressants, but that's a bit like prescribing paracetomol for a cold. The drugs simply hold mood until the brain can sort itself out, which works in a lot of cases.
I'd suggest you talk to a professional counsellor. Counsellors are trained in psychotherapy. The counsellor will be able to offer you some help in dealing with your husband & at the right time will be able either to see your husband or find a colleague to see him if that is more appropriate. What you won't get with counselling is any drug therapy, but the counsellor will help each of you to look at the causes of your depressions & hopefully devise new understandings & ways forward so that depression doesn't hit so hard in the future.
Have a look at the BACP (British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy) website, or if you prefer the ACC (Association of Christian Counsellors) website, as these could help direct you towards a good counsellor in your area.