I NEED to change..i just HATE myself!!?!


Question:

I NEED to change..i just HATE myself!!?

I have an aunt, and my dad, mom, relatives, EVERYONE dislikes her because she is jealous, one day she's your best friend, the next your enemy, greedy, every single bad quality you can think of. ever since i was little i would do childish mean things to my little sister(things that a big sister does to her younger sister) and my parents would always tell me i'm like my aunt bc my little sister is like an angel and always took it w/o doing anything back.

my dad and mom both are pretty much saints too, and i am just like my aunt. i have NO idea how to stop being the jealous freak that i am, and my philosophy is you're born with your personality and you can't change it...

do you believe you can change yourself to be better??

and am i destined to be lonely forever?? (because ppl say don't go after the people who hurt you, and i always end up hurting everyone close to me unintentionally. every best friend i've ever had i've lost, and my current one is close to being lost too...HELP!


Answers:

Honey, take a deep breath and have hope here....you can change...it takes some work but I see in what you have told me you have a lot of pent up anger and there has been favortism in you family and that is very damaging to your self esteem, I bet if you look into your family chain you would find the reasons behind your aunts behaivors are also dealing with anger and no self esteem...you look in that mirror in the morning and have to deal with what you see...and the very fact that you do not like the mean and cruel streak is proof that they are not your nature...but your defense...I am going to give you a website that has several teachers to help you to become who you want to be and who will help you deal with the pain of favortism...your so called saints for parents have been pretty much jerks for putting labels on you and your sister good or bad...most of the time they had it done to them...and it sounds to me like the aunt was the unfavored one too.....anyway give yourself a chance here..check out this site..go to thesecret.tv then to secret gifts, then scroll down to the lady on the grass and play the video...say it out loud then after start exploring the site...it is awesome..you can get emails to your box everyday of some great people who like you did not like who they were or where they were at but chose to change and succeeded...I did the same..and I have a great life now..I still find the ugly in me raises its head once in a while...but now I know how to tame it...so have hope honey...love will prevail and life will get better...




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