Do some people need control and abuse to be happy?!
Question:
Do some people need control and abuse to be happy?
I have a friend that is in a abusive and controlling relationship. Her boyfriend goes through her phone and reads her text messages, while she is sleeping, and if he doesn't know a number he will call it to find out who it is. When she goes out, he calls her every 5 minutes to find out who she is with and where she is. And everytime they get into an argument it leads to him hitting her. They have been together 5 years and the abuse has been happening for 4 years. She swears she wants out of the relationship, but at the same time it appears shes happy with the abuse and control, like when he does it some how thats his way of saying he loves her.
Answers:
This is an age old question I'm afraid!! Some people are just so used to the abuse, and the abuser keeps apologizing and saying that he/she loves them.....The victim usually has low self esteem and thinks that somehow they deserve it, or can't get anyone better. Thus the neverending cycle of abuse!! If you can, try to get her out of that relationship!! Try to help her see that this is wrong. Maybe her parents were that controlling also?; and she is used to it??
Good Luck
Momma P