I am so insecure..I just feel like I'm not good enough for anyone to really love!


Question:

I am so insecure..I just feel like I'm not good enough for anyone to really love.?

How can I feel better about myself? How can I become less insecure and feel like people CAN love me and want the best for me?

I grew up in an abusive home but I have been through therapy and understand a lot more now however I still feel very insecure and sell myself short a lot of the time.


Answers:

This might sound silly, but sometimes it takes hard work to gain confidence in yourself. I know how you feel, I came from a less than ideal home, the next to youngest of nine children, and I was ignored and neglected in much of my youth. I was shy, and I always felt I was in everybody's way.
One day I decided I was valuable to someone, and I was going to be happy with myself no matter what anybody thinks. I went and got a job in a hospital at 16, and it was the best thing I ever did for myself because of pro activity there. In other words a lot of people that want to help other people. Anything you can do for other people who need help will fill in that empty hole in your soul. Places like City Hall and Goodwill Industries will have simple stuff you can do in the form of volunteer charity work, if you have the time to offer. Just generally stay busy helping people doing something. You'll not only help yourself, but you'll be around a nicer bunch of friendly people. Also I don't believe that anti-depressant meds work for everybody, if anybody. Also try to look for the lighter side of things. Consider you could be in prison looking at a couple of decades of incarceration, or you can have terminal cancer. those people can't easily correct their situations, still they have to press on. I'm sure you have a lot to offer people...simply go out and give it.




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