How do I get over 23 years in a year or two? How do I let go of my mom's death?!

How do I get over 23 years in a year or two? How do I let go of my mom's death?

It's been eigth months now and the pain is increasing by the days, people act as though pain suppose to go away over time how long will it take 23 years because that's how long i lived with my mom day in and day out How am i to get over 23 years in one or two? Nothing seems to help anymore and don't pity me but i just don't want to be here either, its pointless.Everyone says stay strong duhh i have no choice, but sometimes i lose the strength. Please help if you can thanks

I'm so sorry for your loss. Eight months is really not a long time to be grieving a loss. The reason 1 or (more realistically) 2 years is given as "getting over" it, is that most people are able to weave the loss, the death, the change into the fabric of their lives in that period of time. You'll never "get over" it - it's part of your life, part of who you are. Life is all about change - people are born, others die. My mother died in a car crash when I was only five and I still occasionally have "what if?" kind of thoughts but I just accept them. The thing is this. You don't have a choice except for how you deal with it. You can mope around for the rest of your life (and some people do) or you can do something positive that will help you keep the memory of your mother alive. (Maybe a scholarship to the school she attended, a "run" for money for research into the disease she died of, or talking to younger people about early detection of diseases or safe driving or whatever feels right to you in connection to her death. You will feel her presence with you when you do something positive in memory of her. Namaste.