How do people with borderline personality disorder deal with the intense feeling!

How do people with borderline personality disorder deal with the intense feelings of abandonment that are?

frequant? they leave you feeling lonely, isolated and empty inside.
im 30 and i live alone in an apartment, because of my disorder and very low self esteem, ive never made any friends or been in a relashionship in my life. the only person ive had in my life is my mum, who ive been very close to throughout my life, and i ring her everyday, shes been through everything with me, and has been there when im lonely and need reassurance, plus she visits me to help me out with things when im in a rut..
but only recentley, even though shes in her late 50s, shes met a guy she used to know from years ago that she used to be with, and their feelings have been rekinddled and she says their back seeing each other again and are serious.....ive not been able to contact my mum for days because shes been at his...and since ive learned about these recent developments with this new guy today on the phone from my mum, im getting these strong feelings of abandonment & isolation & emptiness again.

2 weeks ago
i think its because i feel reliant on my mum for alot of things...and with her not being available or days, and her getting serious with this man, im feeling them awfull feelings of abandonment and isolation again.....
has anyone with bpd felt this, and know how to cope?

Like you, your mom needs the comfort of a love..not that your love isn't enough..but it isn't the same, as you know...You can't depend on others to see you through, you must stand on your own some day...you should be happy for your mom, and the only thing you should be concerned with, is he good to her...that would be what I would want..I know this must be hard for her...because she does know how needy you are, but she has her needs also...You must find a way, to let go a bit...you need to find the Lord in your life, and leave things to Him...it's time to make friends,...and until you know for SURE that you have bpd...you shouldn't brand yourself this way...you are just lonely, and from what I can read, obsessed with these thoughts constantly...more like OCD...truly...My prayers are with you