Every one says I need help. Why can't I fix it by myself?!


Question:

Every one says I need help. Why can't I fix it by myself?

Other than the fact that I feel no need to eat, have fun, or stay awake anymore, I'm 1/4 normal. But what does anyone know about being normal? Why can't I just live with myself with out having to talk to someone else? So what if I'm depressive and some may say that I have bipolar disease. Why does everyone think I need help?


Answers:

I completely agree that the definition of "normal" is ambiguous and shouldn't be determined on the basis that what the majority does is normal. I've always been very anti-social (not because of anxiety, I simply can't tolerate most people) and actually need a lot of time alone to survive. I don't feel there's anything wrong with this.

However, I've also suffered from severe depression, which has many symptoms similar to my own personality. It's okay to not be "normal", but the things you describe sound very much like depression (not wanting to eat or have fun). I definitely understand the aversion to accepting help or advice, and frankly, it may not benefit you, especially if you're not willing to listen to anyone. You need to ask yourself if you truly enjoy feeling the way you do. Do you like having no energy or appetite? Do you miss doing things that once seemed fun? There's a good chance that seeing a psychiatrist or psychologist (or even just talking to your regular doctor, though I do recommend a specialist) will help you feel better, and you don't have to do anything you aren't comfortable with. Just try it. You don't have to tell anyone. A good psychologist or psychiatrist will work with you and won't spit things in your face like, "There's definitely something wrong with you" and "you need to accept that you need help." You can start off by talking about physical symptoms (I'm tired, I get headaches a lot, I have no appetite, etc) rather than mental ones, if that helps you.

If you're entirely adverse to seeing any sort of doctor, you can try talking to a friend or family member. I didn't recommend that first because it's difficult for many people to simply listen without giving advice when someone they love is having trouble. You probably aren't going to listen to advice, so it may make things more difficult, and, to be completely honest, it sounds like you're experiencing something that's due more to a chemical imbalance (your mention of possible bipolar) than something that happened in your life (for instance, you're depressed because a loved one died). Many times, this type of depression needs to be dealt with by a professional. Perhaps you should first try to find out why you feel this way.




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