How to deal with a husband who seems to be losing his way?!


Question:

How to deal with a husband who seems to be losing his way?

My husband seems to have something similar to depression although he refuses to acknowledge it is depression. He says his soul is tired not his physical body or his mind. This has been going on now for about 5 months he sits alone, takes cocaine, sleeps all day and then looks melancholy the rest of the time. I can't help him, he refuses to take anti depressents and he has been signed off for work two more weeks. I am getting to the end of my tether with him in all fairness. Last night he asked me to wake him up and get him up as he is sleeping too much which is making him worse and then I do as he asked and H refused to get up saying he has changed his mind. I knew this was going to happen but I still honoured his decision. I need some advice how best to deal with him. He is using the cocaine to cheer himself up which is working but no way is it a long term solution.

Serious advice please on the way forward to go with him......

Additional Details

2 weeks ago
Meant to say we have discussed all this at great length and he says he needs me to leave him alone and he will be fine. We have two children under 5 who are in our house all day and I don't believe it is fair that we are made to walk around quietly while he is asleep til 2 and 3 in the afternoon every day. I can't leave him alone while he is here all the time it just doesn't happen like that.


Answers:

I totally understand him and what he is going through. As a father and head of the household, he wanted the best for you and his kids. Early in his life, I'm sure he was very motivated in his career and worked towards the American Dream. He worked hard and as the years passed so this all of the opportunities, hopes and dreams.

So, now he is mentually tired and he is trying to deal with the facts that he doesn't have any control of any success in his life. Once he accepts his life for what it is, he will come around. But, that can take 3-6 years or longer. It hard for a LION to accept any longer that he is not a king anymore.

Meanwhile, the worst thing you can do to him is leave. He will surely turn into a crack head and his world will be devastated.

This happens more than often to Black people in America. What you are experiencing is what black people in America have always experience. I've seen the brightest Black minds end up depressed crack addicts. Until you experience such, you'll never know why.

Take this opportunity to understand the american society and the people in it and around you.

As a solution to your problem, there is none other than time to heal. Anti-depressant drugs will not help. It is just a band aid for you the deal with it. It will not solve the problem.




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