I feel like I have to buy things. Not all things, just certain things stand out!


Question:

I feel like I have to buy things. Not all things, just certain things stand out.?

Right now, I like buying charms. I like cute and unusual ones. I feel like if I don't get one, I won't be complete. Only certain ones make me feel that way. Some more common ones, I just don't care about or feel like I need. But some, if they are interesting and well constructed, I feel like I need it.
I feel a little like a drug addict except that I won't go into debt for one and I don't think they are more important than people.

I am just wondering if I am trying to "replace" something inside myself and if so, what could that be?

Is this normal, am I normal? What could I be missing?


Answers:

Nobody except you can determine if this is a problem or not. The way you describe it, it sounds much like how collectors of all sorts of things feel. Although the idea that you won't somehow be complete borders on the compulsion side of things, as long as you can keep it in proportion I don't see it as a major problem for concern. That said, knowing you have a potential problem area means keeping it under observation and control. As soon as your desire for acquisition starts interfering with your ability to enjoy other things, go in debt, or affect other areas of your life, then you have stepped over the line. There's no need to overanalyze the whys of everything, it's very hard to say why some people find beauty in matched sets of salt and pepper shakers, spoons, matchbooks, or any of the other myriad of things people are drawn to collect. It's not really important to define it as either an obsession or a compulsion, when you get down to it. As long as you enjoy it and it doesn't take over your life, does it really matter? You would be the best person to determine if this is driven by a need to replace something or provide some missing something. None of our behaviors are driven by anyone else, and if we are willing to be honest with ourselves, we already know the explaination behind our behaviors. You already know if this behavior is driven by something else, it's up to you to admit to yourself if it is. Though from the sounds of it, it's not a major problem and doesn't need a major fix. So you like charms and like to collect them. That sounds pretty normal to me. So long as you enjoy them, aren't going into debt or otherwise breaking the law to obtain them, and your life doesn't revolve around getting more, I'd chill and enjoy the collection.




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