I think my husband needs help?!
Question:
I think my husband needs help?
My husband is constantly being perverse, combative and is bullying me and my daughter...he'll flick mucus at us and have no regard for how we feel ever!! ....then, he becomes needy and almost cry-babyish and gets angry if we don't do what he wants when he wants. It's very strange. He'll be normal some days and then other days he just walks all over our home trying to trip us, or pick on us, or bully us. He thinks it's funny. I'm not sure if he's being abusive bc he is almost unaware that he's being cruel...he thinks I just can't take a joke and becomes combative. Are any of these symptoms related to anything? I think he needs to seek help but I want to know what I might be sending him for...thx
Additional Details2 weeks ago
btw, he has always been kind of a jerk, but now he's just being insane. he is always bored, my conversations with him are pointless bc everything is a joke, when i say how i feel he tells me i'm pretty much being a baby or i'm over-reacting....oh did i mention he thinks he's god's gift? yep. he does. he's perfect and can do no wrong.
Answers:
He could have a chemical imbalance or could have severe emotional issues. It's not up to you or me to diagnose him.The reason you go for help is to get a diangnosis and help. He probably won't go if you make his appointment.
Instead, why not take yourself for some counseling. Figure out why you put up with this insane behavior and why you allow your child to be exposed to this. Then, together with your therapist, develop a strategy for dealing with his issues.
You cannot change or fix him. Only he can do that. Although you cannot change what he does, you can change how you react to it.
I would bet money that there are women in your family who gave you the model that a "good" woman is the one who stands by her man no matter how bizarre, and who always tries to help him be better. If I am just patient enough, understand him, help him see the right way, get him to a shrink, give him another chance, love him enough........................... doesn't work.