What do you do if you just don't feel you have enough friends?!

What do you do if you just don't feel you have enough friends?

i graduated college several years ago and those friendships are long gone. i'm only partly employed and they kind of discourage friendships there so I don't get a lot of socializing from them. i'm a member of a few groups, but it just isn't enough. and the people I do hang out with, are okay, but just, I dunno, I just feel a bit isolated and unfulfilled.

I am putting this in mental health because all the people in the friends category are clearly eleven.

wow. I've been kind of going thru the same thing myself. Im 40 and lately, I seem to want to have *more* friends.

I have a few old friends, but they live hours and hours away. I have a few friends who live near me, but to call them up and go out with them, its not always convient for them; husbands, kids, etc.

I was going to join all kinds of clubs, but I have an hour commute home and nearly everything in town, like the city theater, or even classes at the college, start early in the evening, before I get home. So....

I told a friend of mine, "I want to have some friends that I could call up and say, 'hey lets go and..." and she said, "but they will do the same thing to you..it cant always be on your terms".

So now, Im thinking, Im ok with the friends I have. I dont want any more friends near by.... Im going to use the ones I have.

I wonder if you are trying to fill some void with friends. Like, maybe you really dont want more friends, maybe you want something else in life but dont know how to acomplish it.

Try to focus in on what you need in a relationship, humor? brains? conversation? Hone in on that or the 'whatever' it is you may need. Maybe a change of employment that allows for a little R&R (happy hour drinks) on off time with co-workers.

Anyway, good luck with whatever you do...at this time, I feel stable and ok without a bunch of friends, but maybe next month Ill be sad and crying for whatever reason. Friends? Work? Life in general??? Who knows...one day at a time.