Should I start seeing a therapist?!

Should I start seeing a therapist?

I have a problem talking to my mom like a normal person. We will be having a conversation and everything is fine until she makes a face or says one thing and my instinct is to get quiet or not say anything/contribute to the conversation. For some reason I cannot find nice words to say "I don't agree with you" or "why do you think that?" I just don't say anything, then she's like "What's wrong?! Why are you mad now?!" And I either say forget about it and try to move on or say something rude and then we get into a huge fight. My problem is telling her that I think she's wrong or disagreeing with her. She says it's ok if I do, but I just can't do it or at least find a nice way to do it. I automatically jump on her. She just makes me so mad sometimes, but I love her and want to be able to talk like normal people. Also, she just can't let things go. She beats it into the ground and keeps bringing it up. Sorry this is so long, but it's been a problem for years.

2 weeks ago
I'm 23 and I just moved out into my own apartment. I was away at college the last 4 years and spend a year after that at home & working to save money. Another fight we just had was that I said she was asking me where I was and what I was doing too much, but I understand that because she's dealing with me leaving. BTW I live 2 blocks from my parents' house, so it's not like she never sees me.

You are not alone. It is a mother's job to insert the buttons that drive us crazy... and then press them. "Everyone Loves Raymond" is funny because we have all experienced it.

You do need help with assertiveness, because when you run into bosses or authority figures that resemble your mother, you may over react. There are consultants and therapists that can help you. Because you do need to learn how to tell your mother to give you space... and how to do this in a respectful, detached, assertive way.

And your mother may not accept it from her baby, so you need methods and help for how to handle that possibility.... it will help you remain clam and understand how to deal with difficult people later in life...